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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Me And my boyfriend have been dating now for 3 months an he could be facing jail soon for a crime he done wen he was drunk.Most of my family hate him but im head over heels in love with him What Should I Do???
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reader, WastedLife  +, writes (2 May 2008):
There are a couple of different things going on here. First off, what kind of crime? Something thoughtless and stupid, or something violent that shows a reckless disregard for people and property? Also, some women get VERY infatuated with someone that triggers deep emotions - even fear, and that can lead to an emotionally addictive relationship, not one based on true love. For now, it would seem wise to "stand by your man", but not too closely. Let him know that he needs to shape up, even if he gets off completely, and then look in the mirror and really understand why this guy has such a hold on you.
How old is he? Old enough to know better?
Meanwhile, what are you doing? Are you in school or learning a skill or two that you can market into a diminishing economy? Have you become comfortable with YOUR adult self and situations? Can you say yes or no with conviction about anything based on your values and not your guilt? There is lots of work for you to get done before you are ready for a serious relationship, rather than just a good time. Observe your boyfriend and see if he regrets what he did, rather than just regretting getting caught. Let him know you are not amused - there are lots of guys out there that you can choose instead. Maybe take a break from your relationship until things get sorted out. Tough love, in a way. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): leg it.
its similar to the old saying
once a cheater always a cheater.
once a crimminal....you get the point.
im speaking from experience, when i was 18 my bf ended up in jail for GBH, possesion of a class A drug
i waited for him to get out of prison.
firstly jail changes a person forver.
secondly he got into all that nonsense when he got out
you join circles in prison, make contacts and friends.
trust me honey, he's not worth it
especially if you are young
run while you stil can
xx
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