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writes:hey.im 16 and really want to have sex with my boyfriend.i emotionally and physically feel ready but there are just a few things playing on my mind about it. will it hurt? will he compare me to other girls? and what will he think of me after?anyone offer me any advice. its really confuzing me as its stopping something i really want!thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, kitty cat +, writes (10 October 2007):
i had the same problem with my ex boyfriend, i felt liek i was ready but for a long time i still felt unsure and liek i had too many questions abotu it. there were several occasions when we could have slept together but i chose not to. However eventually the urge to try it, and my love for him overcame my frear, i still had questions but wnated them answered through experiemce rather then someone explaining them to me. If the time is right, you will know and then you can have all your queries answered. but make sure they are not answered before you really want them to be x
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reader, XxAngelDust89xX  +, writes (8 October 2007):
 Communication is key to a sucessful and healthy relationship.
Let your partner know that you would like to have sex with him, but you are curious about a few things before you are ready to take such an important step with him. Then just fire away.
P.S. if he doesnt want to answer your question, i personnally would advise you to rethink your descion to have sex with him. Be able to discuss what is on your mind is more important than sex
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reader, Lila +, writes (8 October 2007):
 It will hurt like a pinch, burn or sting deep in your vagina. When I lost my virginity I honestly looked down at my crotch to make sure my b.f. hadn't for some reason stuck a lit match inside of me. It hurts for approx. 5 seconds,similar to getting your belly button pierced. He will not compare you to other girls while in the act if anthing he'll be thinking "don't cum yet" about himself. After he will probably think "wow that was really cool that I hit that." Find out how many girls he's slept with,make him get tested,use protection. Above all make sure you really are in love and ready,they don't sell hymen replacements at Walmart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007): Hi, well it's always curious to want to know, and if he is very exsperianced it won't hurt at all!.and you two should be very close if your going to have sex in my opion, open with eacother,and the what nots.. so if he's goin to stick around you should ask him these questions in all serioudness, becuase no man shoud take your viginity and just bail!..
it's perfectly normal to question your frist time, how i knew i was ready was we were gettin ready to do it and he asked are you sure. and i said no and he said ok so he laid down. and just becuse he cared enough to know what i was feeling, and respected me enough that just made me fall in love with him.. so you wil defanitly know when your in love and you may not know when your ready right a way..i would say it never hurt to wait either!!!
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