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writes: I have tons of questions going through my head!Ok, maybe just three or four, but it's driving me mad, I need guys help...So, me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years. He's been my first. I was his second, but almost like his first 'cos he had only had sex once, like three years before being with me.We've always had a very active and satisfactory sex life. We're both very open to trying new things and well, it's great! However...This last week, I've noticed something different. Usually, he would get hard the moment we started making out. He'd climax (either by oral or intercourse, or whatever) and then maybe some 5 min later he'd be "up" again! But now, it isn't like that... today he got hard the moment we started making out, we had sex... and then like 20 min later we started making out again and it took a long while for him to get hard again... a long, long time, I kissed him, caressed him, did everything possible foreplay... and nothing... it took a lot of time! This happened a few other times this week.So I told him about my concern. I asked him if this meant he's getting bored with me. He said that's not the case, that he still thinks I'm very hot, but that he just wasn't very horny. I don't get it, it's not like we're fighting or anything that could cause him not to be horny. He's 23, he's always been very horny! He isn't stressed either, he's having a break of a few weeks from school, therefore, he's doing nothing.I'm scared that he's becoming bored after having sex with the same girl for two years. He loves me tons, but I'm scared he'll lose interest in having sex with me and dumping me. Help guys, what's this all about?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008): well comming from a guy, the whole 5 min or 20 min after sex thing works most of the time but sometimes it doesnt. a guy is pretty beat after the first "climax" but still manages to have it work again most of the time. however its not always the case. sometimes that guy down there just wont listen, no matter how hot the other person is it just wont get hard sometimes. now if its happening before u even have sex/before the "first climax" then that might be an issue.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (5 August 2008):
 Its normal, sometimes my hubbie can have another orgasm 5 mins later by carrying on as soon as he has come (didnt even know it was possible until I met him!),other times he can want to start all over again ten mins later or sometimes he cant get another erection at all. Dont worry about it x
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (5 August 2008):
 Well, familiarity may indeed be the case. You are probably on the right track in your thinking - which is that over time, either partner may become a little complacent about sex and other things as well. It is similar to eating the same favorite lunch every day - you love it, but after awhile it gets a bit less exciting.
Still, with true love and a great friendship, couples stay together for decades, or even throughout their lives. There is no magic pill that I know about. It takes determination, dedication, lot's of love, experimentation, creativity, common purpose and goals, an adventurous attitude and perhaps a degree of good luck to keep a relationship going indefinitely. Best wishes, DoubleM
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (4 August 2008):
 I think what you're going through is normal. I think most couple go through this. In the beginning, you're at it like rabbits..but as the relationship continue..something in the brain tells you the body can't handle it anymore.
I think you're thinking too much into it. That's my opinion..but maybe a guy could give you a better answer.
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