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female
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anonymous
writes:Howdy all well se i have been married for about 12 years now. I did make a mistake a few years ago i slept with my boss. Now he keeps on phoning me and tells me he missed me. me and my husband moved a few months ago to another city somehow he moved to the same city. And phoned me saying he wants to see me!. I do not want to see him and i did one lousy mistake i were drunk and my husband were away for a long weekend 4days with friends. Im so scared i wanna tell my husband but i know he will leave me and i dont wanna loose him. Im scared if im rude to my previous boss that he will phone my husband and tell him everything im in tears. I am looking for another job so he cannot find me or phone me i did change my personal phone's Sim and phone so he doesnt phone me there anymore. but he is married and please help me what should i do! It will brake my husband heart and my heart is broken as well. Im trying to do the right thing but then he calls me......
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2010): Dear lady,
Obviously in this world you need to face the consequences of all your Karma. ( good or bad ). So you will have problems in your life here on and i am afraid there is no quick and ready solution which can undo your karmas. You should not have cheated your hubby. you also cheated your kids and to your conscinece.
I feel try to change the job and city and go away from him. remove all your internet IDs from all in net. you need to some how make your self completely unaccessible.
A practical solution could be to leave the Job and relax with your MOM in LAW or any other relatives away from him for few months. Just tell them you wanted to be with them.
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reader, lifeisshort  +, writes (27 February 2010):
You should record one these phone calls asap. Next setup a fake email account with a mans name. Email your old boss from the fake email account and attach the recorded call. In the email put "If there is any further contact of any nature to Mrs. XXX this recording will be sent to your wife" and you will be taken to court for sexual harassment. This will make him think a 3rd party knows what is going on and will make him even more nervous If he continues to call go through with the threat, send it to his wife, and tell you husband he is sexual harassing you and take him to court.
If you have a brother tell him what happen and what is going on and maybe your brother could contact the boss directly. But get a phone call recording that clearly frames him ASAP!
This all assumes he still bothers you after you have changed your #.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 February 2010):
Make sure the numbers are changed, and make sure you continue to look for a new job. Next he phones, tell him you will have him done for sexual harassment if he continues. If he is married, it is highly unlikely that he will say anything. You are right to be worried about losing your husband, but if your boss does threaten to tell, come clean. It would sound better from you that from him. But since your boss is married, it's unlikely he will do anything.
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