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writes: Ok i wrote in yesterday about my boyfriend always putting his friends before me and our plans. now i have another problem.we spoke on the phone last night (he rang me by the way, i never gave in) and he was so appologetic and swearing he will never do this again and i mean too much to him, he went on like that for a while, i still never gave into him but wouldnt say i was too hostile either. Now though i havnt heard from him!! he was supposed to call me today and ....nothing !!! He doesnt seem to be trying maybe it was because i spoke to him he thinks things might be ok....why are men so confusing????? Can anyone seriously answer that question??Im starting to think he really isnt worth it, i just dont understand coz he was so upset on the phone feeling depressed.....Im confused now....I need more advice...
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reader, StarNews +, writes (28 March 2006):
 Trust and believe in him, unless he gives you a reason not to. It sounds as if he likes you, but he is having a hard time telling you that he is struggling for some time apart.
Allow him some space to see his friends, and in the meantime, occupy your time with friends and hobbies. He will have a better appreciation for you.
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reader, Sexybum  +, writes (28 March 2006):
 Just chiil, he phoned you yesterday, and you only posted your original question yesterday. If you thing sto improve then it won't happen over night. If you WANT to persue a relationship with him and you want him to pay you more attention then you'll have to be more patient than that honey....
I can remeber your posting and I remeber the advice I gave. 'Sure he'll be apologetic and expect everything to go back to normal- Yes he will and that's whats happenning now. He's apologised, therefore expects it all to go back to normal... But like I said he has dented your faith and desire in him and it is now up to him to rebuild it. Don't expect this happen after one converstaion and over one night...
I still stick with my original advice, tell him what he done wrong and exactly how it made you feel, tell him what you miss about him. Hint to him how much you've enjoyed dinner dates and going out with just him. See if he takes the hint and takes you out somewhere or spends the time with you.
Also take head of Irish advice that she gave you about needing outside friends. Pherhaps you should go out with your mates without him, give yourself some respite. All relationships change and grow over time, never expect them to stay the same as they were "before". You either grow and change with the relationship or you move away from it and leave it behind.
I really would suggest that you be more patient with this lad, he phoned you, he apologised, If he doesn't call you today then pherhaps he'll call you tomorrow. I bet that usually after he calls and apologises like he did yesterday, you go runnning back. He's probably expecting that. Thats the pattern you are unhappy with so its up to you to break it.... If you leave it and just wait for him to contact you, if he likes you and cares about you then he will.
Good luck and beeeeee patient x x
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