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writes: I think a teacher fancies me.I am 16 and in 6th form and ahe is about 45. When I was in year 11 my physics teacher used to wear low cut tops, showing her breasts and every lesson she would stand opposite and bend over the desk and help me with my work showing me her cleavage and I could see right down her top. When I seen her in the corridor she would wink at me and smile and I would smile back. Then a few months later she was flirting with me in the lesson. I said the door was stiff, I think it needs some lube on it, and she said that's not the first time you said that to me. Then in the lessons from then I noticed her staring at my crotch area. After this I started to have feelings for her and falling in love. Then it settled it that she fancies me at the school prom, when she walked over to me and stared dancing slowly up against me and showing me how to dance. Then she slid her arms from my back to me arse at gave it a good firm squezee. In the holidays after the prom I tried to forget about it but I krpt on thinking about it. Now I'm back at 6th form and I don't get her for a teacher any more, but still see her in the corridor and she still winks and smiles at me and I see her ayes drop down to my crotch area. I have thought about confronting her about what happened and tell her I have feelings for her and see if she wants to take it further. What do you think I should do about, if nothing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2006): my male teacher fancies me too, so I know how you feel. She seems a bit forward and not very shy! She knows she is risking her courier, so I don't think she would go too far what do they say? All talk and no Trousers. She may be just a tease. I would wait a little longer if I were you because if she is as confident as you say she is then she may confront you about it. Just flirt with her, hint hoe you feel rather than telling her. Like moi, most girls like what they can't have so offer yourself on a plate to her because not ebing able to have you may be part of the charm. Remember though she may just be teasing so don't get too sucked in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2006): hi when i was at school and the same age i had a similar sort of problem with my art teacher who was 40 she to would wear low cut tops and stand opposite me and bend over the desk to help me showing me her cleaverage and she would pat and stroke my hair saying i like your hair in front of my friends and the class she would also stand behind me when i was drawing and say no no do it like this and take my hand and help my draw afterwards she would rub her hand up my arm and feel my biecp and say you must be quite strong by then within a matter of weeks i was falling for her and then one lesson she keep my back and asked me if i would move some heavy boxes in the dark room she escorted me in and locked the door behind herself when i asked what she was doing she said be quite and wait and see she feel to her knees and started undoing my pants whilst she was doing this i got the biggest hard on i had ever getting and she started giving me a blowjob theres no need to say what happened next work it out. we were at it for a few months and we decieded to start dating now im 25 and married to her with a kid and the second on the way.
so what i say mate is confront her all she can do is say no but i have a gut feeling that she wont juging from what u have said she wants you big time go for it.
hope it works out like ours all the best
Ross & Jane
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (6 January 2006):
 A woman of her age (my age, too) who behaves that way with a minor student is not only unprofessional, she may actually have mental health issues. I urge you to do your best to ignore her advances.
Don't, under any circumstances, give in to the temptation to tell her what you're feeling. That would be a disaster, because she'll either end up seducing you (very unethical!) or she'll get scared that you recognise her actions for what they are and claim she meant no such thing... or possibly both.
Young men your age can be very appealing to women in their 40s because they are mostly inexperienced, sexually-charged and easily tempted. You ex-teacher is really just using you to fire her own fantasies. It's unfair to you, because it's lopsided. Think about it this way: if there had never been any sexual suggestiveness in her manner, would you have suddenly developed a sexual interest in her, or another teacher in her mid-40s? Some 45-yar-old woman on the street, or another one you saw at the dentist? Highly unlikely. In fact, the idea of having sex with someone in their 40s probably makes you a little squeamish, if you're like most young men your age.
The reason that you find yourself attracted is only because she's made it seem like she's sexually available, and (naturally) that's a turn on. But there's nothing about *her* that's especially appealing, as an individual; it's just that dangling carrot, hinting of sex.
You need to find someone to talk about about this, so you can see that it would be destructive to get into any sort of relationship with a woman who'd risk her career/reputation/relationships/jail time for the opportunity to have sex with a student, and a relationship that's unlikely to go anywhere or be accepted by anyone. Frankly, she sounds a little unbalanced to me.
Obviously this isn't one of those cases where you can speak to your parents, and I don't think your friends will have enough experience to advise you either. Here in Australia we have the Kids' Help Line, which is an anonymous phone counselling service, so check your local phone book for something like that. You might also consider speaking to a school counsellor, as long as it was understood that the name of the adult in question was going to remain confidential. (Since she hasn't actually done anything, you don't have to name her.)
It's a terrible shame that you, the younger one, should have to be the strong and adult person, but I urge you to push this idea out of your mind and resist. It's just a bad idea, for all the reasons explained by the other respondents.
Take care.
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reader, lizabeth +, writes (5 January 2006):
i know this is really direct but don't do it. talk to anybody else about these feelings but her. because if she responded then she could be prosecuted and sacked! my advice is to avoid her or in you head list everything that you dislike about her. she may look at you in intimate places, she may have a sexual attraction to you but it is such a bad idea. just go out with friends hit a few clubs and meet new girls. just keep your teacher out of your head, believe me it's not worth what you'll both go through if you tell her.
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reader, purrfectionist84 +, writes (5 January 2006):
 It is completely unprofessional and unethical of your former teacher to be behaving in this way. At 16, you are a minor, practically a little boy, and at 45, she is a grown woman (and probably married). If you have an affair with her and word spreads, she will lose her job, not to mention that she could be charged with statutory rape if you two have sex, depending on the laws that are in effect where you live. If she is married, an affair with a student would put her marriage at stake, as well as her relationship with any children that she might have. And if your peers found out that you were having an affair with a teacher, you could be harrassed and made fun of. My advice: If you care about her, then tell her to stop making advances at you! Find a girl your own age! It's in the best interests of both yourself and your teacher.
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