A
female
age
41-50,
*bx1234
writes:Hello newbie here!!I have been single for over a year now and recently been email/facebook flirting with a guy who is quite local to me. He instigated it by emailing me first off (approx 1 month ago). I originally know him from university although that was a a few years back and I only met him briefly once (very drunk)!I am aware he has a girlfriend, of a few years, they live seperate but local to one another. I am very confused as we have been flirting over the Internet, writing lengthy emails and chatting on msn till all hours of the morning, with some sexual innuendo chat also. He explains his relationship lacks fun and she is too serious, he hasn't got it in him anymore but hasn't revealed any attempt to finish the relationship. He sounds unsure and not certain of his feelings.He asked me if we wanted to meet, although he said he felt a bit guilty about meeting. He drove 40 mins to see me, for the first time, last night (8th May). We met in a pub and chatted for 3 hours, got on well, laughed, joked. I feel I really like him.Today I spoke to him on msn, and i said I enjoyed myself and he said he did too. Again we chatted for 30 mins or so. The 'date' has brought no conclusions and he is with his girlfriend tonight.What are your 'feelings' about this situation? What should my role be? Should I let him take the lead?Is he just messing me around?Any advice would be brilliant.Thanks
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (9 May 2008):
 Boy oh boy, this guy must think all his xmases came at once! Bored in his humdrum relationship and along comes someone thats flattered by his attention regardless of the fact he has a girlfriend. Cant get much better than that can it! Er yes it can, for you. I mean, you could actually meet someone thats available! And able to offer you what you deserve. Why are you hanging around a guy that doesn't know what he wants and treats someone he has been with for years like that! Could be you in a few yrs time? Nice prospect? no.
But obviously you need to do what you think is best for you in the long run. But make sure you think about that enough.
Good luck.
C xxxx
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