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41-50,
*adie30
writes:my partner of four years is driving me insane, we have had some very great times and some very bad times, he had to move out becuse of problems he is having and i speak to him horribly, he has lied to me, gone behind my back and mad me feel like shit at times. I speak to him like that out of sheer frustration, we have a dig at each other all the time, i told him last week when he pawned my engament ring to pay off a debt that he had,that i had enough and that i do not want to see him anymore as a couple. He is still comes to my house for meals untill he gets his stuff sorted next week. I cant understand how i can go from loving someone so much to resenting him so badly, he tells me he loves me and i dont believe it anymore, I cant cope with his demands for money all the time, i have asked him on serveral occasions not to ask but he still does. I have no respect for him at all and when i am around him he drives me insane, i feel like he uses me all the time, i cant go on much longer like this. He takes digs about me meeting new people, i keep telling him that is the last thing on my mind, he keeps begging me to take him back but i know it wont work. IF i dont spend time with him he makes me feel guilty and says nobody wants him. How the hell do i break it too him that i need my own space. THat he needs to let go, i dont feel for him the way he wants me to anymore, he has tired me out and i have nothing left to give. I feel bad at times because i get so angry and shout and call him for everything, but he still keeps coming back for more, Why???This is no way for anyone to live, i have given everything and he has taken it all away with the things he has done. (HE had a drug habit and may still be doing it for all i know). He keeps everything secret and only tells me what i need to know, he lies all the time and then gets caught out. I am at my wits end x thanks for reading xx
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reader, taina1980  +, writes (12 September 2009):
You did the right thing. I know it seems harsh but you are not his meal ticket. There is no reason why a grown ass man cant get a job & fend for himself. That isnt your problem . What is his problem? I her McDonalds is hiring all over the world. As long as you kepp feeling bad for him & giving something to eat he will keep leaching off you. So stop you dont owe him anything.
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