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writes:My ex bf broke up with me 1 week before he was due to leave for an long overseas holiday with his guy mates. At first he suggested we go on a 'break' and I said that I didnt want to go on a break because the whole time he was away I would just be worried non stop etc. I felt we should work it out there and then. So eventually came to the agreement to break up. He said he wanted to stay friends and hoped there was no bad feelings between us. He hugged me goodbye. That week I got lots of messages and phone calls from him saying he still cared about me and that he was there to talk if I ever needed him. He also said he could never delete me from his life. What does tht mean? does he mean as in a gf or friend? Anyway...he left for his holiday. While overseas he still kept messaging me etc. He kept saying he missed me and kept looking at my photos, and that i was so beautiful and gorgeous and that he needed to see me. Half way through his holiday he came back home for one of his relatives weddings. And then he was going to fly back overseas for his holiday. When he arrived back for the few days he wanted to see me. So i met up with him. It was weird seeing him and being with him because i felt like he was still treating me like his gf. He still hugged me hello and goodbye. He NEVER hugs his friends. And he doesnt even hug his mum or sisters...so what does tht mean if he hugs me? When he hugged me, it was a long hug as well...and when he said goodbye it felt like he didnt want to let go, it ws such a nice hug.Anyway when i met up with him i asked him why he wanted to see me, he didnt give me a straight answer. he just said he wanted to see me and missed spending time with me. and he said it was great seeing me and would see me when he gets back. He didnt make any attempts as such to get back with me...but do you think he wants to?I get the feeling that he broke up with me before his holiday so he could sleep around with as many girls guilt free while overseas. I know this is what he did last year when he went overseas (but he was single then). Im starting to think that the reason he wanted to just go on break was so he could do this and come back and get with me. But because i decided i wanted to either break up or stay together, we broke up. And so now i feel like the whole reason he keeps messaging me and saying all the sweet things he does and treating me like his gf is because he wants to keep me hanging on the hook, so when he comes back at the end of his trip, ill still be here for him? does anyone agree? any other ideas of why he is acting this way?Just so you know, the reson we broke up was because we got into a big fight bout sex (coincidence much)? I want to wait until there is more of a serious commitment in our relationship. He doesnt want to wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2009): I think yeah you are right about him. The only thing that doesn't seem right is his actions. Meaning that he's putting more effort than needs be to "keep you hanging" (maybe this was his original intention). If I were him and fooling around with girls after I broke up with you, I wouldn't be txting or talking to you as much as he would, if at all. I'd be too busy sleeping around. He prolly realizes not everything is about scoring girls and that he lost something good in his life. At any rate don't settle for less than what you wanted. You wanted commitment and that is what you should aim for with or without him. It may be a good idea to lay the cards on the table and tell it to him like it is. I don't see why you shouldn't get back with him. At the same time its up to you if you want to date other guys as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2009): You must be really blind not to see that he still loves you! His giving you messages and calls saying he cares for you and cant stop thinking about you. He was back for one day and wanted to see you, god damn it girl your lucky! He probably didnt want to get back together yet because he loves you to much to be away from you when your his gf! X
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