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writes: Hi, why does my male partner invite guests over, and smile (at the women and make eyecontact) and be friendly and basically not look at me or acknowledge me. The next day he goes to work and then comes home, goes to sleep, then gets up and avoids me all day. Unless he wants something, he barely speaks to me. I feel like I'm not wanted and may as well pack my bags. Only reason I've stuck around is because we have two children. help. I feel like I'm not wanted or respected and am being used as the cook, cleaner and sex machine. Reply to this Question
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (3 June 2006):
 How do you teat him now? I am not saying that this is thru any fault of your own, I am just asking if the pair of you are maybe in a vicious cycle of *boredom* or *neglectful* behaviour. If you feel that your relationship is worth saving and you want to work at it then one of you needs to break this cycle. When was the last timeyou had a romantic meal out together? Act now, find a babysitter get spruced up and go out and try to rediscover what it was you both found so attractive in each other in the beginning of your relationship.
It is easy to get into a rut after having children or in a long term relationship. It is also easy to drift along without ever showing your appreciation for your partner. Taking the other person for granted can be a killer in any relationship. AND if you are feeling neglected then maybe his mild flirtation is a way of showing you he feels neglected too! I am not saying this is the way it is. BUt it is worth a try surely to put some life and spark back into both of your lives.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2006): Is he a capricorn by any chance? If not then men are cowards they hardly ever dump, what they do is they as annoying as aloof as possible until you dump them!! Sad really. Try and talk things through with him if he isn't interested then perhaps you need some time apart.
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reader, Aunt Jess +, writes (3 June 2006):
 im sorry to say it but it does seem as if he doesnt respect u as a person. one reason could be that he feels comfortable in the relationship and doesnt see a need for compassion to prove this.
i think if you leave this as it is things will only get worse. explain to him that you feel very hurt at his behaviour and that for the sake of your children this must change.
if he has lost interest in u, u better off knowing now.
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