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writes:I have been with my partner just over a year now and things have changed, due to me telling him white lies! he says he hates me and doesn't trust me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2007): Sometimes it can be harder to tell the truth because you may be ashamed/embarrased/scared of what the reaction will be. My theroy is that its always better to be honest. You cant change the past. You cant take back the lies you have told but you can make a vow to be honest and start again.
Tell him that youre sorry you lied and be honest from now on.
Ask yourself what you lie about and why? Is it to try and make yourself sound more appealing? We all like to paint a nice picture of ourselves to others but you can still do this by being truthful.
Also, if you are truthful to him about who you really are then you can be comfortable that he knows and loves the real you and not a false character you have convinced him you are.
Good luck and take care.
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reader, lupa-k +, writes (23 April 2007):
Lies often aren't a good foundation for a relationship, and you can probably appreciate some of his concerns. All you can do is try to explain to him why you weren't honest on these things, and reassure him that you would never lie to him on the major things. Trust can be a difficult thing to build up however, but if you are determined then persevere
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