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writes:I am a 49 year old divorced woman. My partner of 9 months, who is 43 seems to have lost interest in sex with me. To be honest, his libido has never been very high, but sex was really good at the start and nothing has changed between us (I keep myself in good shape and am attractive for my age). Sex started to get less frequent a while ago and we have now not made love for 2 months. He gets upset when I try to discuss it. I really like and want this guy but I wonder whether I should just give up and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2007): It could be a few things. He could be self motivated and a bit controlling/abusive and this is a tatic he uses to gain control.
It could be he is needing time to himself and space and I say wait it out-he'll come back all loving and into you. Men and women go through these swing down times. Read Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus by John Gray Ph. D. It's an amazing book. Promise.
It could be he has a lower libido-there are some that are termed asexual in that they are completely happy not having sex and have no real desire to have it. It's just a choice they have in that they don't feel the need for it. There are some interesting articles on it. They even have date sites for such individuals as these individuals have had "failed" relationships due to there low to no sex drive.
I say don't pressure him, he loves you and isn't ignoring you, don't keep asking him if something is up. He'll come to you if he needs anything. Just act the same supportive way, be his friend and he'll appreciate how accepting you are of him and come back with full force.
He's not trying to hurt your feelings. He isn't trying to ignore you. He just needs his time to himself for awhile.
Please get the book I mentioned for the insight you need for a successful relationship.
Best Wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2007): It's interesting, because I am a 27 year old male dealing with the same situation with my 28 year old fiancee. We've been together for over 2 years, knowing each other for more than 10. At the beginning, the sex was great, and at least three times per week. We haven't had any type of intimacy since January. This isn't obviously my opinion on the subject, but she also gets viciously angry when I bring it up, which is often. She states that stress, her physical ability (she considers herself overweight), and her being busy all the time has affected her sex drive. My point is, instead of talking to your partner about it, maybe you should consider writing him. Are you willing to give up your relationship because he isn't giving you the sex you want/need? If he won't talk to you about it, tell him that you need to discuss it, or the relationship may never move ahead.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2007): hello Dear. how you doing,hope you fine and ok,well i am Peter and i am from Canada,i stay in a little town in Canada were the people there are 2kind of people some are nice and the rest that heartless,must of the ladys there does not like a man with kids,and some they are after what a man got like cars,house,wrist watch,wallet and other things.but i feel this world is a small world.just about 6years ago me and my wife were smiling and happy,if i knew that it was going to be like this i would not have let her go to the party of never return home,now i am a Widow and two kids,i lost my wife 4years and some months now,it was a painful death,pains that made me stay away from woman in Canada cos i would not want them to posion me and break my heart and the heart of my kids,they mean alot to me.well about some weeks ago i was going Thur Google Website when i came to this website and i decided to join,the reason why i join this website is becos am seeking a woman who is caring and loving,honest,loyal,commited,romatice,and passionate,Look not for beauty nor whiteness of skin, look for a heart that is loyal within. For the colour will fade, the skin will grow old,but a heart that is loyal will never grow old....In life,bad things may happen,but that doesn't mean that you should shut the world out.For if you do,you could miss something great,I wonder if one day when you look back on your life you'll see its not always about the big picture. It's really all about the moments and maybe one day you'll look back and string all those moments together and then you'll realize when you add them all up, your life is more meaningful than you could have dreamed.i have been looking for over 4years now i have not find or met any,i am willing to do anything,i would relocate if she does not want to relocate,well this is little about me if you wanna know more you reply back to me.have a wonderful day.can you contact me here on my email
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (21 July 2007):
 Something has changed if his interest in sex has changed, too. It seems this isn't a problem you can manage through conversation alone. I suppose you could tell him that things are not working out, and you'll move on. That should make him react. If he won't, well, move on.
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