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writes:I have been married for more than 10 years. It has been wonderful and exciting and I love my partner with all of my heart. The problem is that over time we have built up a lot of relationship baggage, that has made us both resentful towards each other. We hurt each other because we seem to be unable to forgive and resolve past wrong-doings (in this relationship) and this is causing fresh wrong-doings. Vicious circle. I wish we would be reintroduced to each other tomorrow and start a fresh relationship with each other, without all the baggage! We can then have a great relationship again. I feel very defeated, please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2007): The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past.you cant go forward in life untill u let go of the past failures and heartaches!!!!
Hope i helped..good luck
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reader, flower girl +, writes (21 July 2007):
 You need to be able to agree to put whatever has happened in the past behind you or the relationship will not last much longer, i have to agree with Mandy7 about trying relationship counselling, if you love each other and want your marriage to work then it is well worth considering.
If you are not prepared to consider this option then maybe you are never going to get over things.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2007): Hi love,
Throw a pebble in a pond and you get ripples....
You dont mention what baggage, you love each other and past hurt is just that hurt you are both hurting so much inside you cant come to the truce you so want...
Sit down, and talk, write down all the hurt you are feeling and tell your hubby to do the same, whats the bets that on that peice of paper there are things you both didnt know was affecting your marriage, as you just bicker and have ago the true feelings never come out, your just left feeling even worse....
Have you tryed counselling if you two are still so inlove then darling you can work through this your half way there some couples just cant do it as they have gone past the love, Help each other get back what you had, those past hurts are past and you cant take them back just learn from them and help heal each other.... good luck TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, eddie  +, writes (21 July 2007):
 You haven't said what the baggage was. That is important here. Some things are never put in the past.
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