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writes:Hi I’m in a relationship for 5 years we have a 3 year old daughter I have started a new job 8 months ago so now my partner has to bath our daughter and put her to bed something which he had never done till I started this new job due to changing my hours he has said to me he’s finding it very hard to cope with looking after her she tries talking to him he’s just ignores her he’s always yelling at her for stupid pointless things and its put a huge strain on our relationship he comes home from work in a mood all the time he just sits there making no conversation at all my daughter has noticed a change in him as she no longer asks him to play with her toys with her any suggestions on what I can do I thought a father and daughter would have a very strong bond but they don’t thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2018): Thank you for all your answers I’ve ended the relationship
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 June 2018):
 There is nothing you can do to force him to be a good dad, reading this and your other post it is clear you don't want to be with him any more. If he cannot cope with your daughter then you need to be strong and be the best parent that you can be. Maybe children don't come naturally to him but if he cannot step up and be a good dad then it is his loss.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2018): Yeah sorry I did post they have published them the other way around
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 June 2018):
 Precisely. " How do I end this pathetic relationship without him turning it all around on me ? ". Which on my screen shows as posted on June 6th, i.e. : yesterday. But let's not quibble about the date, it's totally irrelevant.
What does not change, -IMO, is that you are wasting your time catering to the needs of a man who does not care at all about °your° needs. I guess that even if somehow you nag him, bribe him, blackmail him etc. into finally bathing his child at the required times, this still would not make him more caring about or interested in you and your relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2018): No I didn’t post yesterday I only posted about how I ask him to leave without him turning it around onto me that’s the only post I have done
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (7 June 2018):
Is this the same man you posted about yesterday , I suppose ? The one who sleeps on the sofa, does nothing but messing up the house for you to clean after him, and never wants to spend any time with you and / or your daughter ?
Yesterday you were sick of him and wanted to leave him. Today instead you want to turn him into a better dad.
I think your idea of yesterday was better. Simpler and more effective.
Not that parental skills cannot be learned, even fron scratch. There are even classes for learning parental skills.
But the problems here are two. First, that's it's not the skills he lacks, but the will. At least, he acts like someone who does not want to be a dad and is coping nilly willy somehow , just because he's got no other option. They can teach your man to bathe his kid, but they cannot teach him to cherish her and nurture her if he hasn't got it in himself. Second, that even if by some miracle he turned into SuperDad , he would still be a lousy, selfish, uncaring partner for you .
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