| A
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes: i need some advice.. my parents are ruinning my life!!! they wont let me have a social life..and since were from another country, it makes it even harder!!! they are soo old fashioned, they always think of the negative like ooh..you're gonna get kidnapped, or youre gonna get drunk, find out you have kid and ruin your life 4ever..those are things they alwaqys say... i mean im not a bad kid, ikeep everything maintianed and i take of my responsibilities..i get straight a's, in the 8th grade and already have a scholorship fo college so what else do they want from me..im not stupid, i wont get myself into drugs, have sex and stuff like..im too smart for that stuff..and i dont care peert pressure wont brake me, i wont get my self into that stuff.. but that doesnt mean icant have a little funn..my life is so depressing and miserable..all ido is stay in the house all day everyday, because my parents wont let me go out and hang with my friends..like go to the movies, or parrtys, or over to their house or anything... i use to go out side like every day to hang out with my friends because they lived in the appartment complex, and thats where i was only aloud to go,but now i dont go out anymore becus most of them moved out and it gets really boring... so what should i do?? please and thxxz.. and sorry this so long
View related questions:
drugs, drunk, moved out Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, didda123  +, writes (26 January 2009):
 Oh sorry so you are just a young boy then. Well everything i said is relevant really only i thought you were about 18 but now you tell me you are actually 14 and i can understand why your family are concerned for your safety more than anything.
They will be worried that you are getting in with the wrong groups of people as you are relatively new to the area and things are very unfamiliar peer groups etc.
I know you say you are a bright boy with common sense you will really just have to go along with them but do as i said encourage them to meet your friends and eventually they will realize you aren't hanging out with any undesirables and they will start to relax a little.
It is only healthy that you mix with kids your own age in your local area but maybe your parents are a bit uneasy about the place you are living mainly because it is all new and it will take time to settle in fully.
Hope things improve for you soon x
A
reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question yahh i wanted to change that but i cant...
when i signed on here i put i was bonr in 1990..
but im really 14..
and 2009 is my ninth year in the usa..
...............................
A
female
reader, didda123 +, writes (25 January 2009):
So actually how old are you? I'm sorry i'm am not familiar with the grades in your country. I answered your question assuming you were about 18 since you put between the ages of 18-21.
...............................
A
female
reader, didda123 +, writes (25 January 2009):
You don't say how long you have lived in America or where you have moved from but everything must be strange for your parents they are not familiar with your area and they may be having trouble with language barriers which will only make their situation worse, it takes older people a lot longer to adjust to these changes. Maybe they are not working and have not made any friends in the area so everything has remained a bit alien to them.
Try to encourage them to get involved in the local area in some way maybe some local neighbourhood groups.
I am sure this is why they are feeling so protective of you. If you have friends at school maybe you can invite them around to your house to meet your parents once they see the type of friends you are mixing with they will relax their attitude with you and be happy for you to go further afield.
If you have a mobile phone you can keep in contact with them that way then they may feel more at ease when you do get the chance to go out.
Will you be leaving home to go to college or is it a local one just you will have a lot more freedom then but your parents have your best interests at heart and if you can help with their insecurities by always being home on time when you do go out to school or elsewhere and not keeping secrets from them then this will all help.
You are no longer a child though and must develop your independence. Get involved in some school activities maybe outside of school and they will probably be more at ease with this.
Good luck x
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009): What country are you originaly from? this might help us understand your parents conservative views?
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question yahhh about the age thing iwanted to change that...
its because when i made my account i put i waz born in 1990
...............................
|
