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writes:First, i am 15 and he is 16. anyway, my parents have been talking to me lately about breaking up with my boyfriend. we've been dating for over a year! they want me to start dating other people because they think that's its unhealthy for someone my age to be in a relationship for that long. they want me to have normal highschool relationships. also, they think he treats my poorly, but that's only because when i talk to them about my boyfriend, its usually about something bad. they keep telling me that they want me to do it soon, but i just cant get my self to do. i don't know what to do right now! i still have all of my feelings for him but it's just too hard for me because we are so close! i don't know what to do or how to cope with this, please help me!yes he is a sweet guy to me 9/10 times!also, my parents said they don't want to see me and him together and if i go behind their backs they will be upset with me, they say they are doing it for the best of me Reply to this Question
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reader, Holli'  +, writes (17 February 2012):
 Hiya hun,
Well it is up to you not your parents.
My sister had the same issue, she never really felt the need to tell our parents about her relationship with her boyfriend unless she needed help and they told her the same thing.
However, it isn't unhealthy to be in a long relationship at any age, if it was why would people get married :P
Start by telling them the more positive and funny things he has done, they want to see you happy not upset, that's why they have told you to get rid of him. The decision is yours, so if you want to stay with him, then you should and tell your parents how you feel, tell them you only talk to them about your relationship when you feel you need a little help with it and that 9/10 times he treats you just right :)
If they still aren't then you could talk to your boyfriend about it and get him to send you a nice text which you can show your parent so they gradually start to like him more :)
My sister use to bring her boyfriend home and my parents would always act nice to his face, then they would hear them laughing over time they warmed to him a little more.
As long as you are still behaving, eating and acting like a normal hormonal teenage girl :P then you are perfectly healthy in my opinion and I say hormonal because at times I can be a total dragon and not because of any boy ;)
Hope this helps hun, take care xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2012): Whilst you live in their house... you have to obey their rules.
Of course, the relationship is only against their wishes if it takes place IN their house. They cannot control what happens elsewhere.
No one is gonna force you to bring the guy home.
Of course you could sit them down and maturely try to reason with them, and failing that maturely tell them you thank them for caring, but you will be continuing on with the relationship, however long it lasts and that they should be HAPPY you have not just skipped from partner to partner like the other immature brats you are forced to hang out with 8 hours a day at school.
Tell them you feel it is THEM who are taking a ridiculously immature line on this.
After all, what is a teenager who actually listens? Nothing because they don't exist.
Flynn 24
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reader, LovelyLemon +, writes (16 February 2012):
 I don't think your parents understand that telling a teenager to do something will usually backfire. I don't think that it's fair of your parents to try to control your relationship. You are growing into an adult,and you must learn to make your own adult decisions.
I was in a bad relationship when I was your age. It lasted 3 and a half years. I did love him, even though he treated me poorly. My parents did not approve, but they did accept that I had to make my own decisions. You should have a mature sit-down talk with them about how you feel, how you aren't ready to break-up, and that you feel that their imposition on your relationship is making you stressed.
Needless to say, my bad relationship did end, and I'm with a wonderful man that treats me with the utmost respect. But I don't regret all of the hard times with my previous boyfriend. I learned a lot, learned how to stick up for myself and make my own choices. Your parents can't prevent every bad situation, even if they do have good intentions.
Much love and Best wishes
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reader, tortum +, writes (16 February 2012):
9/10 times? Don't you think you deserve a guy that treats you nicely 10/10 times? Generally, if parents don't like your boyfriend, there is always a reason, and if they don't think he's treating right, most likely he isn't. Reexamine your relationship, make a pro-con list, and remember that you deserve the very best, is this guy it?
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reader, Deagan +, writes (16 February 2012):
 First, why do your parents think he treats you poorly? What has he done?
Why do you say he's sweet 9/10 times?
Can you explain this to us? That make give us better insight as to why they do not want you dating him.
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