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writes:Hi. uhhm well, where do I start? You see, it all started out with a random friend request from a frape [EDITOR'S NOTE: frape: When a person leaves their laptop/PC unattended whilst signed into Facebook and other people change various parts of their personal page to humiliating or undesirable material. --from Urban Dictionary]. Anyway, she sent me a message apologizing for the random request, and I replied saying don't worry. Anyways, things went on from here, as we literally have been non-stop talking for best part of a week, and we are getting along really really well. As we started to open up to each other, we realised we had a lot in common, like the fact that we have both been bullied, a lot, and both suffered from bullying related "issues", to say the least. Anyway, she was really down and depressed, so we were talking about what was wrong, and people have been giving her a lot of trouble, especially this one kid. I sorted him out, in a non-violent form, i think ive got him to manage to leave her alone, but after this, we started opening up more to each other. Well today things progressed a little bit, and we have sort of started flirting a bit. We both really enjoy our conversations and everything. Well, although we have never met, we both sorta said we love each other. And I think she likes me, and I think im starting to like her too. But today we were talking, and were like, just talking about ourselves, and somehow we managed to get onto the subject of school, of all things. Next thing I find out, is the fact that shes 12, almost 13. She honestly honestly doesnt look it at all. She doesnt even act like it either, she looks like she is at least 15 or 16. And from the way we chat and everything, you honestly wouldnt believe it. But the problem is, im 15, im like, 2 and 1/2 years or so older than her. I mean like, I think im starting to like her, shes an amazing girl, beautiful as well, and really kind and caring, and a great laugh. But the age gap is a little bit of a problem. Distance isnt, because she lives in Bristol, I live in Yeovil, its only like, an hour away. But i really dont know what to do about her? Due to our age gap, I really dont wanna let her down, cause shes a really nice, good kid. I just really need some help. please please please can you help me in anyway shape or form? Please?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2012): Never said i wanted sex or anything. But yeah, I dunno what to do :L Ive been with quite a few people my age, and all of which are stroppy little cows. I know thats harsh, but its true. But this is what I was saying earlier. I genuinely thought she was my age. Atleaset! Well try lettin a girl down who has had a lot of shit, and seems to depend on you to help her feel like these problems dont exist :L
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2012): I would suggest that you pursue her, become friends, and have a friendly relationship. But PLEASE for now, "Don't have sex together." Wait until the both of you are older.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2012): And also, thing is, unlike most people. I couldnt give a shit about sex. My ex used me for sex (well, tried anyway), even tho that may sound strange. I honeatly honestly couldnt give a shit about sex. And I know that now it seems a lil strange, it feels it. But, its hard to describe. She is literally the first girl who ever has truely understood me. I know its a strange thing to say, but its true :L and shes year 8, im only just year 11, by like, a day or two :L
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2012): Sorry but as nice as she is, she is ONLY 12 and if anything, you shouldn't have more than a friendship. Also, I think that you should look for girls around your age more than anything else. I also suggest that you think about a very good legal term 'age of consent'. I see that you're from England and you might not know but there is a law forbidding relationships between someone under 15 and someone aged 16 or over. You might want to check this page out: http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio1/advice/factfile_az/age_of_consent
My advice would be forget her and date someone your age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2012): Yeah, cheers for the replies. im only just 15. Shes 13 in what? Not even a month. thing is, you talked to her and stuff, you wouldnt believe shes that young :L i know what you mean like when we are older itll mean nothing (the age gap) but like. i dunno whatta do at the moment :L
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (16 February 2012):
 When you are older then 2.5 years is NOTHING. She’s a baby at 12 and you are on the verge of manhood at 15….
How she looks has no bearing on what she thinks or how she feels… she’s 12 she’s a child in her brain….even if she has the body of a woman… I had that problem at 14 I looked 18 because I had developed so early… my dad used to walk with me on the beach so men would not hit on me… I had no coping skills at that age…
DO not have anything more than a causal friendship with her if that and keep it very very public… if you are still interested in about 2 or 3 years you can slowly and gradually try to test the waters…
The best way to know if this is a good idea is ask your mom and her mom... MOMS normally really do know best.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (16 February 2012):
 If she is 12, then she shouldn't even be on facebook as I believe their policy states you have to be over 13 to have an account.
This girl is WAY too young for you. She probably hasn't even started her periods yet, let alone gone through puberty.
She has NO idea of what love, romance and relationships are all about. eg, if she is only 12, then she will probably be in year 7.
How many other girls this age do you know who are on the same emotional wavelength as you?
You are almost 16, and your hormones will be all over the place, and no matter how hard you try, you will want to be sexual with a girlfriend. She is WAY TOO YOUNG.
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