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*rewskie02
writes:ok... here is the situation i have... I am completely in love with this girl i go to school with but i have dated her 6 times before in the past each one lasted about 5 months. Well we have been really good friends since we broke up about a year ago. But my Family and Friends hate her. The problem is that we both like each other as more than just friends and we really want to get back together. Should I disregard the fact that my family and friends hate her and date her anyway or should i not date her??? i really dont know what to do...i need help
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reader, Molo.Jones +, writes (23 February 2010):
ikno..,its hard being with a person your parents and friends disagree with .bt i mean its your life dude like yu cant always please everyone ...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2009): hey xx
( a couple of mi friends dont like the guy i like but i dnt let that stand in the way of me hanging out and talking to him )
well...find out why they hate her/him and think who u like best and love spending more time with, even if they might be fridged(this sounds sloppy) it's inside that counts,
like someone else said, if they are good friends they wudnt care who you dated or fancied, even if they hated her/him.
if your still confussed after reading these then ask the frinds hu you can rely on an can trust. They will always do what they think is best for you. So choose the friends you ask wisely and make sure you can TRUST them.
i wish you the best xx:D
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2009): hey xx
well first find out why they hate her/him and think who u like best and love spending more time with, like someone else said, if they are good friends they wudnt care even if they hated her/him
if your still confussed after reading these then ask the frinds hu you can rely on an can trust. They will always do what they think is best for you. So choose the friends you ask wisely
i wish you the best xx:D
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): well i have had the same issue as you ive dated a girl that i love a long time and my parents hate her...all i have dont is disregard everything they say hang out with her all the time. but you should date her as llong as you want...its what you and your heart want fuck your parents and if you had good friends they wouldnt care who you dated
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008): FOLLOW YOUR HEART ! if u like her or love her go for it
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): Your friends now, you love her and want her back. But isn't it her that always breaks up with you. What if she doesn't want you back this time, what if she is fed up too...
You let all the drama at school get in the way of your relationship, well it doesn't seem that your relationship is very strong, if you let gossip and "drama" get between you two. If you get back together, then what will change. What do you both intend to do to prove to your parents that she's the right girl for you, and you are both so in love and can be happy together.
"Drama", what dose this mean? Your together for a year and a half and then you break up, why? Then you try it four times more and you can't keep it going, why? Sounds like a whole pile of mess... My advice is for you to stay friends, and just hang out together, and then the drama won't be able to part you again.
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reader, brewskie02 +, writes (9 December 2008):
brewskie02 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok the reason that they hate her so much is because she has broken up with me so many times. and we get along great for long periods of time the problem is that everytime we go to school there is so much drama that we kinda just lose everything. The first time we dated we dated for a year and a half so we can get along great. The problem is that i never really ever got over her after we broke up... no matter how hard i try i just cant. i am so in love with her that i just dont know what to do
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reader, vamp-gal  +, writes (7 December 2008):
 Hey,
Okay, well, firstly, ask them why they hate her so much, they have to have a reason, when you find out, you have half your decision, based on what they said.
Secondly, you have broken up 6 times and all of your relationships have lasted 5 months. I don't know why this is, it may be because you weren't ready for a proper relationship, or maybe, back then, it wasn't meant to be.
If you both truely love each other, and think it can last this time, taking in what your friends and family have said, I see no reason why not.
However, they could dislike her for the amount of times you both have broken up, and they don't want to see you get hurt again, like the last 6 times, they are probably trying to look out for you.
You'll have to talk about this with everyone who has an opinion on this relationship, take it all in, and think about what will happen this time, will you stay for 5 months, and break up again, why do you keep breaking up in the first place?, and whether it will be able to last.
You're 16-17, so, you have so much time ahead of you, I wouldn't worry about one girl. Unless you feel you can truely make it work this time.
I'm only 15, so I don't have any experience in this, so I really hope this helps.
Good luck in whatever you decide to do, hope it works out for the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): I don't like your relationship either.... you've dated 6 times (for around 5 months each) I'll assume you keep breaking up and then you are both unhappy... Your too young to be unhappy in love, it interferes with your studies and makes you sad, when as a young person you should be happy.. You don't sound good together, if you was in love you wouldn't break up, it sounds like you love suffering more than you love being in love... You two need to stay away from each other and find people who make you happy, rather than make you cry....
I may be wrong, but 6 break ups is not a strong healthy loving relationship, and that's why your parents worry, because I would do the same... Why do you break up, why can't you get along... More information is needed, otherwise my advice stands, you and this girl can't have a relationship, all you seem to do is hurt each other and make each other cry.... Sometimes, love can't conquer all....Sorry
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reader, katatonik +, writes (7 December 2008):
 You haven't said what your family and friends dislike about this girl, but it's hard to believe that they all just randomly hate her. Why did your relationship with her end the first 6 times? The people you love and trust in your life (family and friends) will naturally want what's best for you and it sounds like this girl isn't it. Unless you think their reservations about her are really unfounded, it might be best to stay friends--and only friends--with her from here on out. Good luck =]
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