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writes: OMG I AHTE MY LIFE...i hate my rents they are so oo over protective, they get on my nerves and are always on my back!!! it's soo frustratting.....i hate my life, im a freekin 14 year old guy, i can take acare of my self.... i have no frreeedom wht so ever, and they treat me like a frigin 9 year old i responsible with everything i do, and am a freekin straught a student i dnt know why they cant seem to trust me i feel like running away sometimes,if it wasnt for reading books, internet, tv, and drawing i;d go insane waht should i do???? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): Good advice from Satin and I concur. The only thing I can tell you as a frustrated young adolescent, is for you to respect your parents rules and guidelines and to please, make good choices. This is how you will earn their trust and will get you privileges. Reading your posting is leading me to believe that you are at risk for making poor choices, especially in the manner that you speak of your parents..the people who love you. Honestly?
I have raised 3 teens. My last one, a quiet, studious, sensible boy, whom I trusted completely. He found drugs. Thank goodness he is clean now, but I just about lost him. So I need you to understand, the heartache parents suffer when their kids get hurt or into trouble. I need you to understand there are real dangers out there. Your parents are worried about your well-being...surely you understand that.
However, the way you speak, in this posting, tells me that if you were my teenager, I'd be inclined to keep you on a short leash, too until you could straighten up and drop this self-involved "me, me" attitude. You are 14, a young teenager. Just 2 years ago, you were a child. You have a long way to go. As much as you want independence, you need you family to financially and emotionally support/guide you through until adulthood, so don't be so quick to write them off.
You need to connect with your family. It's time for you to begin being a gracious young man, keep your grades up to par and start acting like the helpful, nice young man, they want you to be. Sit down and talk to them and find out what they want from you, so you can keep the trust solid, in this family. Let them know you want to explore and venture out with friends. Maybe they will agree with you and put some conditions on that . eg: telling them who, where and when. Who you are with, where you will be and when you will be home. And you need to respect all curfews and rules they lay out. If you do this, they will begin to allow you more privileges and independence but it's a process, day by day. Be patient and don't be a surley, silly young man. That will just irk the heck out of your parents and they will not want to compromise. So watch your step...you are not in charge...they are!
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reader, niki20 +, writes (9 April 2009):
 listen to satindesire. she sums it up. dude i was like you hated life yada yada yada. im 20 and i need my parents sometimes still. listen to them, they are not trying to make you mad. dont run away you wont go far. and frankly if police find you they dont take kindly to run aways. they love you so much. dont hurt them by being this way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUM SORRY BUT IM NO WHERE NEAR BEYING A SPOILED BRAT..
AND DA WHOLE CHORE THING WONT WORK, ALREADY TRIED
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