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writes:I’m 19 years old guy and I’ve a trouble with my parents. I’m gay and my parents know it. And they have nothing against me being gay, but they have something against my boyfriend. I’m dating a wonderful guy for half a year. He really makes me feel loved and he gives me everything I could wish. He’s 29 years old, older than me. That’s the first thing my parents don’t like – they say he’s too old for me. The other thing is his family. He doesn’t really have a family. His father is in jail for killing his mother. His grandparents, who brought him up, died a few years ago. He doesn’t have brothers or sisters, so he’s totally alone. Well, now he has me. Actually I regret telling this to my parents. I really thought they would understand, but instead they started to talk something about bad blood and being a criminal. They also doesn’t like that he doesn’t have high education. Yes, he hasn’t gone to the university, but that doesn’t mean he’s a fool. On the contrary.I cannot even take him to my house. I’ve my own room and we don’t bother anyone. As they see him, my parents become extremely impolite and cold. My mother even told to me to look after him so that he doesn’t steal anything. I don’t understand this attitude. All his life he has fought in order to survive. He has changed a lot of jobs and right now he’s also working hard to support himself and also me a bit.He sees that my parents don’t like him and he keeps asking me why and what can I say him? I love him so much, but my parents are bugging me everyday to break up with him and choose another guy. Why are they doing this?
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reader, Biffo  +, writes (16 September 2012):
Your parents love you and want the best for you.
You both need to show that your love is strong and you are right for each other. I have no problem with the age difference. You know he is not a criminal. In fact I think your friend is very lucky to have you. Time will tell. That's all you need to tell your parents. When you are still together after a few years, you will have parents who realise they were wrong to misjudge your friend. If you are not together after a few years, you will have parents who love you and support you. I wish you all the best..
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reader, lmao1989  +, writes (15 September 2012):
 They're family it's what they do they like to interfere in your relationships.
In their eyes they are just looking out for you when in actual fact they are more pushing you away.
Just because his father killed his mother (in which i have deepest sympathy for him) they see it as it probably runs in the family when it is far from it. They are just judging him because he's a lot older than you and because of his dad they probably think he has his fathers gene's but they are just doing it because they care and they think they're looking out for you.
Just talk to them and tell them that he isn't like that and if they got to know him they'd realise that and that you can't judge someone based off a family criminal record.
I hope this helps hun! Chin up.
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