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writes:Im lost... Me and my fiance are 18 and 17, she honestly keeps me alive, im beat daily by my parents, and i cant keep going with out her. Ive made her parents rly mad at me cause i snuck over after a huge fight with my parents. I may not see her again... Thats something that cant happen, what do i do? shes not 18 for almost 8 months.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2008): Great answer Emily, yes babes, she's right, you have the power of blackmail on your side. Time to stand up for yourself and tell him to back off, otherwise it's publicity time.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (16 August 2008):
If your dad is a big politician then tell him that if he does it again you will go to the press and show them your bruises.
Your local paper or TV station will think they've won the lottery if you say you are prepared to be interviewed and show them some bruises or footage on a hidden camera or something.
You have nothing to fear from this man as he has a public image to protect and you can destroy that in a day.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (16 August 2008):
 glad to hear things worked out
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reader, Inumuro +, writes (16 August 2008):
Inumuro is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthings worked out, but my dad is a big politician and the police are no help.....
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (14 August 2008):
 If you have younger siblings at home you need to report this physical abuse to social services and the police - they are at risk too. As an adult you are able to make your own way in the world and staying in this environment is totally preventable. Take a stand, move out and report them to the authorities. It may take courage but you are actually doing them a favour as they will get the psychological help they need. I left home at 18 due to controlling relationships at home (not physically abusive though) and I never looked back...my relationship with my mother actually improved afterwards once she realised I would not be controlled anymore.
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reader, xalfiex +, writes (14 August 2008):
 Honey, you're in the age bracket of 18-21.
You, sir, are an adult. If your parents treat you like this, move out. They cannot dictate to you who you can and cannot see anymore.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (14 August 2008):
Firstly I think that you need to talk to her parents and appologise and show them some of your bruises from your beatings.
Secondly you need to have your parents done for assault.
You need to get more in your life than just your girlfriend... that is an awful lot of pressure to put on one person. Get yourself sorted out and take steps to get away from your parents.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (14 August 2008):
why did you need to sneak over? i think you need to apologize to the parents and promise that you will be honest from now on. maybe explain that you are going through a tough time [if you don't want to mention exactly what].
in the meantime, have you looked into finding a way to have the abuse stop? i've had friends who have gotten emancipated from their parents, etc.
good luck, if you ever need someone to talk to just message!
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