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writes:my boyfriend says he gets tired of being on top when we're having sex. But me being on top just feels awkward. I feel so vulnerable and judged. I know I probably shouldnt feel this way with someone I love and its not a question of can we be open to each other or something like that, its just MY OWN insecurities about myself. I've already opened up so much with my body and everything. Any suggestions on what to do? Reply to this Question
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reader, cd206  +, writes (15 February 2007):
 Yes! Relax! Your boyfriend has told you he doesn't want to be on top which means two things. One... he wants you to be on top so he doesn't have to do all the hard work Two... so he can look at you! It's a compliment. If you're feeling really insecure tell him that you need some help building up to it since being on top brings out all your insecurities. Chances are he'll understand!
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (15 February 2007):
 I do not think he has the time for thinking so much about those issues when ur on top he's only thinking about sex and how much fun he's having that's sure so If you want to work your body go to the gym and so on sweety but sure he's not judging but positively at that very moment
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reader, tiki +, writes (15 February 2007):
your boyfriend most probably wants you on top because it really turns him on getting to see your naked body when you are having sex. if you think about it, when he's on top, all he can see your shoulders, neck and head. i felt exactly the same when me and my partner first tried sex with me on top but he encouraged me, telling me how turned on he got, not only seeing my naked body but also with me being in control. if you really can't get over it, try blindfolding him, it will help you to build your confidence without him staring and he'll probably be overjoyed that you're trying to kink things up a bit. best of luck. tiki x
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