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36-40,
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writes:I have been with this girl for 4 years. It was wild at first but then after the first 2 years it slowly started going the other way. For the last 2 years we have grown apart and hardly see each other, once a week, or twice if I'm lucky, and its always me asking her to come round. And sex is virtually non existant! Once every couple of months if Im very lucky!!The only time she does come round of her own choice, there is always another reason. Usually she has been asked out somewhere and, for some reason, she feels she has to spend time with me before she tells me she is going out. So you can imagine that when she does come to see me of her own accord, I am never happy about it because I always know its not because she wants to see me, its because she wants to do something or go somewhere with her friends. I dont know why she does this, but its bloody annoying.This last week she has come round almost every night to see me of her own choice. Yeah, the first night I thought, oh here we go, whats she after. But by today I was convinced she was doing this because she finally wants to be with me, and I was feeling really good about it. She even suggested sex on two of the nights, which she never does, its always down to me to initiate sex the rare times we have it.Then it came today, the text saying she was going away next weekend with her friends. And I feel so crap because I thought we was really getting on and moving forward, and all this week was only about her going away!!!Its as if she trying to soften the blow before she tells me something, but I have know idea why she would feel the need to do that. And it seems the bigger the thing she has to tell me, the more time she spends with me before she tells me.Does anyone know why she would do this?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (4 February 2011):
 It's more the norm than the exception...afraid you'll have to get used to it buddy, Female hormones (or something like that) go away too soon for our liking. Get used to cuddling(that's your new "sex life" Join the millions of us out here wondering why we are suddnly the enemy instead of the lover.
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