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writes: I'm very, very dissapointed.My sister is 21. I'm 19. I've always kinda looked up to her, because she's much more mature than me and she's very respected, you know, she really has it going on. I've always admired her relationships too, because she has never lacked male attention (unlike although we're very similar) and has always had stable, nice relationships. I knew she had cheated on her first boyfriend, physically. I could understand this, as that relationship was pretty much dying before she cheated, and also, she was 16, so she was more immature. After that she's ended her relationships in a mature way. I always thoght she was very honest and all that, but with what I found out yesterday, she fell from my pedestal.Ok, so this happens when I snoop around I guess. I never knew how she and her current boyfriend started seeing each other as she just brought him here one day, but I had suspected it had been going on in secret from before that. So I checked her chat logs. And that's when the truth hit me.For starters, she met this guy (current boyfriend) at some social gathering. They kinda flirted, and before a month had passed, they started sleeping with each other. Then they started falling for each other and finally made it official.However, little more than a year ago, she broke up with her ex. At that time she told me that she had a crush on this online guy that she's known for like 8 years already, if not more. They've been friends all along, and even though he lives in another city, they both liked each other. And they started a cyber relationship.I figured she'd cut it now that she's with her real boyfriend. But she hasn't!!! I checked her chat logs and turns out that she's still having this online relationship. I know it's not physical, but I wouldn't like someone to do that to me, and I certainly wouldn't do it to my boyfriend. Maybe it sounds like not a big deal to you, but I really admired my sister and now this!I can't tell her I read her chat logs... should I let this go, how do I respect her again?
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reader, logicdebates  +, writes (22 June 2008):
Best thing is to let her live her life. But do tell her how important abstinence is. Cybering won't get her pregnant or STDs unlike the real thing. If they are just friends without anything physical, let it be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): stop whining she aint done nothing wrong it was a cyber relationship not real life,no intimacey,no kissing,no sex
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