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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Many thanks to couple of people who responded to my problem of boyfriend looking at other women.I was talking to a male friend who is 64 years old to see whether I am being silly or what.He turned around and said "well, you are very attractive but neither pretty/beautiful nor stunning. Of course he is going to look at stunning/beautiful women. He may get one of them but may not be happy with them though. and he could be more discreet about looking at them in your presence"He has on many occasions told me that I am not this and that and he refers to his 32 year old in the same way, he says she is attractive but not pretty/beautiful/stunning, these are exact words.I do not like the way he says you are not beautiful/pretty/stunning, but only very attractive.I know I am not, but I do not want to hear it like this from him.Or do I have serious issues and need counselling.I was seeing a counsellor once and told her about this friend and she told me to tell him how I feel after he had said to me that only Oriental women are very beautiful.However, he continues to say it.my self-esteem is rock bottom at the moment and I really do not need friends to tell me this, I did not ask his opinion about my looks, I simply said that when my bf stare at women I feel that he fancies them as some of them reciprocate his stare and smile to him.I do not want to talk to him about looks. we seem to be very obessessed with looks, Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2011): Actually a lot of us are attractive when we put our minds to it. Not many people are trully beautiful, pretty is at very well but it fades quickly, but attractive is good to my mind. I would put myself in that bracket. So don't take it as an insult no matter how it was meant. Men can be very blunt when it comes to looks, often when they are no great shakes themselves. The vivacious woman who is confident, happy in her skin is most appealing. And you can be attractive well into your older years. Just believe in yourself and take no notice of this critical man.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (30 March 2011):
 http://www.dearcupid.org/question/friend-said-rather-insulting-comment-to-me-what.html Duplicate post a little down the page.
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