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writes:I'm a 14 year old male and am still a virgin. My older brother is 17 and has been sleeping with a couple girls since he was 13 and said I could sleep with them if I wanted. I have never seen her but I know she's hot. Should I go for it even though she's slept and still sleeps with my older bro? I really need help, pretty please.
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reader, JohnnyXXX +, writes (15 January 2011):
Kid, you're 14; I waited till I was almost 23. I'm not saying you should wait That long, but there's no need to rush it either. I'd also be weary of a girl that's willing to sleep with you because your bro asked her to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): Holy Crap!!!
No!
you may not realize this now but 14 is still a child!!
There's no reason to have sex that young and it is NOT that uncommon to be a virgin at age 20, so calm down, don't be so worried about it. Enjoy life, enjoy other things first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): Sloppy seconds, YUCK! Are you frickin desperate or what? Also any girl who would do that is a slut, hope you like std's. Herpes is forever you know.
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reader, malibooty1 +, writes (8 January 2011):
Other guys may tend to make yu feel pressured but wen yu get to the right girl yu will be glad yu didn't because sometimes wen yu really fall for a girl and she finds out yur not a virgin it scaeres some girls away.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (4 January 2011):
a) you're under age, which means it's illegal to have sex and I understand that makes it more tempting.
b) what's the rush to lose your virginity?
c) do you want to have sex for the sake of it?
c) why is your brother so keen for you to have sex with them?
d) do you really want sloppy seconds - going somewhere your brother has already been and still going?
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reader, lush2010 +, writes (3 January 2011):
Don't start so young, there is no need to compete with your brother ... Let him be. You will get to lose your virginity in your own time.
Once you get to know a girl that you like, build chemistry with .. And when it feels right , with a girfriend.. Then you can go for it (but not right now , you are far too young) enjoy your childhood and don't try to grow up too quickly. You have your whole life for that!
I undertand the peer pressure , but try to be strong. Don't use girls for sex.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (3 January 2011):
 You seem to be thinking that your virginity is some sort of curse, something to be gotten rid of as soon as you can. That's more or less how I felt about it when I was 14. I did indeed toss it away one drunken night, and have regretted it to varying degrees ever since. The thing that most teenage guys cannot understand is the difference between base sex motivated by lust, and sex with someone you care about deeply. The first is little different from masturbation (and sometimes not as good). The latter can be so amazingly good that words can't describe it.
I completely understand your temptation to go for it with your brother's offer. And I'm telling you from someone who has been there that you will regret it -- maybe not right away, but someday, and for the rest of your life. Your first time doesn't have to be sleazy; you'll be grateful eventually if you make it better than that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): Why would you want to sleep with someone who's slept with your brother? Okay, I'll just be blunt. Why would you wanna stick your d*** in the same place your brother's d*** has been? And you don't even really know anything about this girl. Sex should be viewed as more than just "losing your virginity" or how "hot" a person is. Besides, your brother has been sleeping with another girl (a girl who has probably had other sexual partners as well) so he could have a disease. Is this really a chance you wanna take?
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reader, Problem.helper +, writes (3 January 2011):
 It depends what you want . Do you want to have sex with the same girl that your brother ? Do you want to have sex with girl that is so easy ? and for the first time. If you are ok with this and you'll do it , please use protection.
My advice is that you should wait at least few years and do it with someone you care about NOT with a girl you havent even seen. Sex with someone u dont care about feels good but if you love someone it great. And you will appreciate sex more when you are older. First time is very exciting and you can only have it once so it should be when you are absolutely sure that you want it and with the right person.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (3 January 2011):
 I wonder whether the question is bona fide actually.
Assuming it is -
a) You're too young. Dont even contemplate it.
b) Why exactly do you want your first experience to be with someone who's not even your brother's "ex" but just someone he 'sleeps with'.
c) First experiences don't neccessarily have to be something wonderful - in fact they're often awkward - but nothing will be as awkward as being with a girl who sees you are "So-and-so's kid brother".
d) Your brother's attitude to sex is questionable enough, but his understanding of his relationship with you, his brother, is terrible. You should certainly NOT consider him your role model in these matters.
Sigh...feel so hypocritical writing that - it's all true though. DON'T DO IT.
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reader, PRiNCESS628 +, writes (3 January 2011):
Ewwww do not sleep with her thats nasty..and you should wait 14 is still super young!! Ur brother should also stop sleeping with a bunch of girls hes gonna get a decease..ppl dont take it serious but it is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): You are very young so I take that into consideration. But does this poor girl get any say in the matter? (You may find she doesn't think much of this idea). You talk about it as if she is offering some sort of service. You and your brother should have more respect for girls, they are not to be used and passed around like shabby toys. No, go find yourself a girlfriend, build a relationship and take it from there.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 January 2011):
 No.
I understand the offer is tempting for you, but, first of all, you don't need to have sex at 14. It's way too early, no matter what your bro says, and btw, it's against the law.
Second, when it will be your time, be your own person and find your own girl. Someone you like for real, and not by hearsay ! Someone who will SEE you as her lover and not as the little brother of the main guy she is sleeping with. Get your own girl, you don't need your brother's leftovers. What are you gonna do when you get married, wait for your brother to divorce from his wife and pass her down to you ??
Btw : your brother's attitude to sex and women sounds rather horrible , and I would not take him as the best role model at least in sexual matters. You don't have to be exactly like your brother in everything- you can be BETTER than him, never thought about that ?
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reader, partyprincess2011 +, writes (3 January 2011):
 NO! Dont sleep with someone for the sake of it, anyway your to young wait til you find somebody you love and care for before even thionking about losing your virginity!
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