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writes:hi there i met my guy on line as nsa buddy but he wants us to take our relationship as he calls it out of the bedroonm. i been seening him 6months now im unsure to take this step as i not sure if i want a relationship again whats more is i have a child and he doesn't no about him so how do i tell him with out seeing to be a heartless bitch by not mentioning it sooner. what should i do does it work Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2012): You don't sound overly enamoured by this guy OP, I mean 6 months is quite a while to be sleeping with someone, you'd be fully sure whether you'd want to make this more official by now but you don't.
Look don't worry about the son thing, just bring it up in passing some time like "can't meet today I'm picking up my son from school". OP 6 months he probably already knows.
Look if you're willing to take this to the next stage and start dating and want to give it a try then do, you have nothing to lose really OP.
What is it about having a relationship you don't like? Is this guy boyfriend material? Or is it just that you're afraid of committing and getting hurt?
You have to figure these things out.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 December 2012):
 I think you are not sure you want a relationship WITH HIM. Generally people are not against relationships on principle, only they want to be in the right ones... and if you have hesitations, either you only like him strictly for his sexual performances, or you have a gut feeling it can't work anyway between you.
If you do decide anyway to go ahead and give it a try, yes , sure, if I were the guy I'd be very surprised, maybe even shocked, that you could omit such a detail as being a mother.
Then again, you can always tell him, and it would make sense even if maybe in your case this was not the real reason, that until you were only fuck buddies you did not want to share with him the most personal and private aspects of your life, and that,reasonably, you keep your child totally out and uninvolved with what could be just transient flings.
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