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writes:How Long Does A Girl Hold Out?i've been dating a 20 year old for just over a week now and everythings going good.shes the first girl to ever turn me on since my ex dumped me just before xmas.after geting with this girl for a week i asked her to stay over at mine so we can have the feeling of what it will be like. she agreed but when she stayed over she got bored she told she didn't i knew she did.at 5am in the morning i was mega tired she wasn't and she told me to goto sleep. i didn't but at 5.30 i asked her to try to goto sleep and she did for me.ok the problem.when i got into bed i normally wear nofthing but i thought because i have a guest i would wear clothes. She slept on top of the bed. and covered herself with her coat and she slept till 10am and i got up at 11am.no cuddles no nothing, is that normal?she told me she just been laying there from 10 and i was feeling guilty because i thought she was awake and i was alseep. Now after she went home at afternoon. i asked her y she didn't sleep in the bed with me she told me she never sleeps in the bed at home. but i remembered her saying something about when shes warm she kicks the covers off her so did she lie 2 me?ok ok next problem how long does a girl normally hold out on a guy?this girl dated a lad who she saw for 4 days and she slept with him and we been dating 9 days. How long does a girl normal hold out 4? i'm gonna ask her 2 sleep over again next week and this time i'm gonna make a big move on her and c how it goes.her last boyfriend stoped talking to her 2 days after they slept together do u think thats got something to do with it?i make alot of jokes about sex because i'm always horny and i've not had sex in 2 months.what can u do all we ever do is goto my house and watch DVDS. i took her to the museum the other day with my lil sister and she said she had a good time but i got the feeling she didn't have a good day.any help will be great.
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reader, TygersDream  +, writes (23 March 2007):
She probably is worried that you won't talk to her after you guys sleep together. She also might not feel completely comfortable with you yet as a date - since the last guy didn't talk to her after they had sex, she might not trust you yet.
And if you're joking about sex all the time, (I hope you haven't been hinting that you haven't had sex in 2 months - that comes off pretty needy) then she probably has an impression that you're gagging for sex and not really into dating her for her.
She might also not feel comfortable sleeping (ZZZ-sleeping, not sex-sleeping) in somebody else' bed. My sister's the same way, she'd rather drive 45 minutes back to her house at 5.30 in the morning to sleep in her own bed than crash at somebody's house.
And just so you don't drive yourself crazy - don't take her 'relationship' with her last boyfriend as a guideline to how yours would go. It's also not really productive to ask how long a girl will hold out for, not every girl or situation is the same.
So I wouldn't advise asking her to sleep over again next week - it didn't work the first time, you'd better wait for HER to take the initiative.
At the same time though, I don't know if she's really INTO dating as you hope for. She seems to be preoccupied with something else and is just going with the flow to see if she'll enjoy it or not. Maybe you should really have a heart to heart chat with her and ask her if she really wants to continue dating you because she seems to be bored or not enjoying herself. See what she says and see how it goes from there. If she assures you that she is happy with how you guys are going, then don't smother her with questions like "Hey, are you enjoying yourself? Would you rather do something else?" just take it a step at a time. It's only been a week, after all. Just take it slow, ok? ;)
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reader, chrissy32789  +, writes (23 March 2007):
 Dear I Waited For The One, Seeing that you have only been together for a week or so it is normal that she didnt cuddle with you and that it may have seemed that she was bored but it could have been she was really comftable staying there she could have alot of thoughts going through her head....it could be true that when she gets warm she kicks the covers off of her and she was prolly warm and only need a little thing like her coat to cover her up so she might not have lied to you. it verys on girls some girls will hold out for a day or less and some girls will hold out for longer then that it depends on how long it takes her to be ready to give it up! Try not to push her into something cause you can end up loosing her, when you go to make a move ask her if its ok, that way you will know if she is ready for it, she may have sleep with that guy the 4th day but maybe there is something diffrent about you and she wants to wait to see if you are with her to be with her or be with her just to get some, she prolly feels used from that other guy and doesnt know if you will do the same thing that lad. did to her, that will have a big part to do with it...dont always be talking about sex no matter how horny you are, on your free time away from her masterbate, that way it wont be that bad for you when she is around you, when she comes over play a game with her, do other things, and she prolly did enjoy going to the museum with you and your little sister maybe if you went other places with her just the two of you she would enjoy it more...when you do ask her to come over again ask her what she would like to do and talk to her about how you feel about her and if your not with her to get some then explain to her that! When a girl gives it up to a guy and then gets hurt then it takes alot to go with someone else and give it up she may feel like she is going to get hurt again you just need to talk to her and show her she means more to you then just a piece of ass! i hope i helped and good luck
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