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writes:I broke up with my BF of 15 years last month. He cheated on me for the third time. We have broken up before but we always get back together. I'm always thinking about and dreaming about him. I don't know what to do! I still love him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2007): Hi There,
I know that it hurts to be cheated on, and I can imagine the pain you feel right now. Coming from experience though, if there is someone who is treating you disrespectfully (which your ex-boyfriend seems to be doing)you need to find someone who will treat you better. I know, it's fun to daydream and have dreams about them cuz it gives you hope that something like a miracle will happen, but in most cases they don't. I think you would be better off finding someone who will love you enough not to cheat on you the first time. I think then you will be truly happy with yourself and who you are with because you can trust that person. If you got back together with your ex-boyfriend, that "honeymoon" stage that occured when you first went out will happen for a little while, but then it will go away. Then you will have to rely on respect and trust for the long run.... 2 things that your ex-boyfriend and you are lacking in your relationship. Just keep in mind that you are better than anyone. You know how you want to be treated, so don't settle for anyone treating you like you don't have feelings. The person who doesn't want you to be hurt will be the one you should really want to be with. And there is someone out there for you with those qualities.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2007): forget about him! he wont change after the 3rd time he'll never change move on and find some one who deserves you
sorry to be so hard but like I said before guys like that wont change their pieces of crap and he doesnt deserve you
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (23 March 2007):
 Dear smile35, 15yrs is along time to be with someone but he has cheated on you 3 times i can see the 1st time taking him back but after that dont do it no more, you still love him and think about him all the time and you will for a long time, because hes been there all that time, but go out and have fun to keep your mind off of him and dont take him back.If you keep taking him back he will think that he can cheat on you and keep comming back to you cause you will take him back, and if you do decide to take him back this time, becareful cause he will do it all over again, but if its really that bad that you feel you need to take him back go and get some help go to a consullor to get some help and advice. jJst keep in your head when you feel that you want to be with him that its not worth it. He hurt you 3 times, and he will never be true to you, and it will never be the same you will never have trust in him and when that happens whats the since of being with him, you will always be wondering where hes at if hes doing what he says hes doing, and its more aggrevation then its worth...try doing things to keep your mind off of him...i hope i helped
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reader, tessy!!tmt +, writes (23 March 2007):
I know its hard to get over someone you really love but nobody needs to be cheated on. I think you should try to move on because if you take him back girl he's just gon' cheat again. Its gonna be hard to get over him but sometimes you got to let people go.
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