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writes:I am pretty irate at the moment. I have new neighbours who I can refer to as hypersensitive. When they first moved into my building, their visitors used to leave the main building door open and this posed a major security risk. I even witnessed their daughter leaving the door open. I had a polite chat with my new neighbours about this as well as the landlord. However my neighbours took it that I was deliberately picking on them and had an issue with them??? I actually spoke to everyone in the building at first not wanting to single anyone out in particular in case it was someone else leaving the door open. However the security issue of the open door continued as my neighbours and their daughter, seemed not to want to take notice and instead focused on what they felt was my ''vendetta' with them. I was actually concerned that they could ignore security and rather focus on perceived issues I had with them. As i said these are new neighbours who I do not know and have never had any disagreements with. My only concern and wish was that the door was to be kept shut for everyone's safety. When they first moved in their daughter used to visit and she seemed friendly at first. However each time I've seen her in recent months she's been quite rude to me. I'll say hello and she's make a rude comment in response. This has happened many times so now, I don't speak to her anymore. I have alot of self respect and if someone is constantly rude to me, I'll avoid that person. Today, I was in the middle of running a programme on my computer which was frustrating me. I got up to go to the supermarket to buy something and was eager to rush back to finish off what I was doing on my computer. There was some police incident going on outside which was of no interest to me. My neighbour's daughter was outside watching the ongoings and stopped me to gossip about it. I politely explained i was in a rush to get to the supermarket and get back and thought she'd let me go. However when I returned she was still outside and again wanted to stop me for a gossip. At this point I made it clear again, that I was in hurry and needed to get back to my flat as I was very busy. She then accused me of being rude and proceeded to call me ignorant? I'm tired of dealing with people like this family. Every wrong look or word spoken, they take it as a deliberate slight against them. Has anyone had to deal with people like this?
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (27 July 2013):
She may have been holding out an olive branch but you’re perfectly entitled to politely tell her you’re in a rush.
The best you can do is remain polite, say hello when you pass them and make conversation if you get any response. As for the security issue your concern is understandable. I’d be interested to know if the landlord would be willing to help in any way or if others in the building would also be willing to mention the issue so it’s not left down to you all the time? It might be worth a discrete word with a couple of others to see if they could help raise this as a matter of concern with the neighbours.
I wish you all the very best.
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