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writes: Ok im 16 and i met this woman( 30) my mum works with. We became friends and i started looking up like a sort of a role model. She knew i looked up to her and seemed to like that i did. My parents broke up and i need someone to talk to so i sorta talked to her, she said it ws ok. Now she is very angry with me saying i contacted her too much which i now know i did but i just wanted some help. i tried to say sorry to her but she kept getting angrier with me and now wont talk to me. The other day i tried to say sorry again and she called mum to complain about me.I really dont know what to do. I know theres no hope of us being friends but i just want to say sorry.Should i leave it for a month and try to apoligise again? Or what???PLEASE HELP... A
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (7 November 2006):
 I'm really sorry about your parents....
Now, regarding your question, I'd leave it alone. If you're desperate to apologize, I'd wat for a few weeks and then send a card. Not too lengthy, just offering an apology and then after that - let it go.
I feel this woman is acting a bit immature if you were going to her as a role model and for advice, but I don't know her side of the story. I would reccommend finding someone new to talk to. A therapist? Or maybe a teacher?
Anyhow, I think a card would be very appropriate. Just remember to keep it concise!
Good luck,
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reader, davie  +, writes (7 November 2006):
I understand you wish to say sorry (and that is good of you) but it may be better to just forget about it. For whatever reason, good or bad, she obviously doesn't want you contacting her anymore. Your pesistance in trying to say sorry will probably only anger her a great deal more. You've tried to say sorry and it didn't work so leave it at that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2006): Usually when a person apologizes to someone, it's because they've hurt or offended someone. I'm trying to figure out how you have caused offense and hurt to this woman, when it sounds like...you've been nothing more than a little bit pesky. If I were you, I'd give this up. So you called her overly much and you apologised for that. That was nice of you. Now, leave it at that, dear and leave this woman alone. If your apology is not accepted, then that's ok. You did your best. It's up to this older 30 year old woman to be more gracious, more mature and accept your gesture of good will. If she doesn't, then so be it. You can't make people approve or like you, by trying to apologise, all the time. So, don't feel dwell or beat yourself up over this. Now, go find someone else to talk to-perhaps some other friends your own age. And quit apologising to people for just wanting to talk about things that bother you.
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