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26-29,
anonymous
writes:so it was about a year that i knew bout the fact that my mom was cheating on my dad. their relationship was AWFUL. they tried to get divorced when i was 5 but they didnt becuz my little brother came along.well according to what my aunt said they knew each other for only 2 months or so b4 they got married! the story started when i heard my mom sweet talking on the phone, i first panicked and when i asked her who it was she said juss A FRIEND but i knew she was lying ..well i paid no attention to that eventhough she used to cry in the car and u know the stuff u do in the tough times of a relationship!but after a few months i heard them talking about buying a house , being together and other stuff … i just BLEW UP! i couldnt believe that was my mom saying those things . well she broke up with that guy and found a new guy ! so things kept on getting worse for me ! cuz i was the only one who knew this and had to keep it as a secret. then i started reading her text massages ( it was more like a sexmassage) chats( i read things that just killed me inside things like getting divorced or how much he luvs her )…ahh and i even caught her using the webcam in MY ROOM for like 3 or 4 times. i just CANNOT stop thinking about it ..iam so depressed ..sometimes i felt like i couldnt take the situation anymore so was thinking about killing myself but i knew thats was just stupid so i kept on crying and keeping things inside myself … there are a lot more details on what went on with them ..i just didnt know what to do? i mean i knew it was gonna end up to a divorce …and i didnt want that! but its happening. i used to be so happy and stuff but now im like so quiet and dont really like having fun, i kinda went Emo…the only thing that relaxes me is listening to heavy metal , Emo, alternative songs , even my friends noticed that but i didn really like talking about my problems with the others well only one of my friends kneww bout this but all she did was listen and now i dont even have that friend anymore because my mum left my dad and moved me from new york to memphis and now atlanta. i am so depressed. ive lost almost all respect for my mum. i understand sometimes its best for people to breakup but she is always the one cheating around on whoever shes involved with not just my dad. she plays with peoples hearts and uses people. how can i ever respect my mum again. shes 44 and immature cruel and inconsiderate to people and hurts everyone she comes in contact with including me and my younger brother. pls help.
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reader, massage +, writes (10 November 2013):
 Talk to her, let all your feelings out and tell her what you know.(talk to your dad as well and have him in there).
Tell them what you feel and let it out.
If you can't face your parents talk to a close relative( Grandma or aunt) and tell her what's going on and how it's affecting you. Adults are complicated sometimes, don't put things on you, if they screw up it's on them not you IT"S NOT YOUR FAULT, SHE IS UNHAPPY, SHE IS MAKING POOR CHOICES.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2013): I am really sorry for what you are going through.Can you show this post to your mother so that she knows exactly how much her actions are affecting you?If you don't feel comfortable doing this then can you ask your father to come and pick you up so that you can live with him instead?You could also speak to your teachers or counsellors at school and ask them to help you start the process of moving in with your father or a different family member.Be strong, there is a lot to live for and your brother needs you. You have been very brave so far - what you are going through is not easy. I went through the same thing, carrying guilt for keeping it secret that one of my parents was cheating.Reach out to another adult that you trust. They will help you.
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