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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I'm not sure what to make about my girlfreind, she lives about 30 miles away from me and I have to always pay for hotels when I stay up there, she occasionally comes down to me, but lately I have gone up to where she lives, she says she loves me and I'm her most important thing to her, but it doesn't explain why she doesn't offer to help out with the bill, hides her phone away when she texts people, texts my mates for conversations, but says she doesn't want to lose me and loves me, she has a history of self harming herself, and she drinks a lot, and has had an abortion in the past, the thing that scared me was when she said that she wanted to die first! So then she could wait for me and we could be together, my mum says she's screwed up, I don't know whats best to do? Thanks.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (5 November 2007):
 I'd ask her. It never hurts to ask. Don't you agree knowing is better than wondering and not knowing? She needs counseling.
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female
reader, samohir  +, writes (4 November 2007):
 she s got problem obviously with her self esteemitation. I think she feels unuseful and probably unloved. Calling oneself sut and that behaviour she shows point out to that.
The best way,if you really love her, is to help her, To make her feel special, Loved and worth.
Best of luck
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female
reader, lilgirly  +, writes (4 November 2007):
 why don't you just talk to her and make her go to professional help( she needs it)..but what she needs the most is you next to her .
take good care of her..
good luck and byeXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI Found out she sees other men behind my back, and calls herself a slut and hoe! its so bizare i dont know whats wrong with her.!
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reader, rcn +, writes (4 November 2007):
She needs counseling. Self hard, drinking, not taking financial responsibility. She needs a psych exam. It almost sounds like Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, which can be found in people who have had an abortion. With the death thing, I'd say she is really out of reality. It's in her best interest to get help. If you choose to leave her, do it gently, these individuals are generally serious when they say they will die to wait for you.
Take care.
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reader, lilgirly +, writes (4 November 2007):
hey,
it is clear that she has some problems if you really love her don't leave her cause now would be the best time to show her your love and affection, she is so sad and maybe screwed up like your mum says but you shouldn't leave her when she needs you.
and if you feel so desperate that this relationship is going no where i think you can take her to a phsycitress.
hope i helped good luck and keep us updated byeXXX
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