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My mum is sleeping with my boyfriend

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Question - (1 May 2009) 6 Answers - (Newest, 14 May 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 8 months. We get on great and have an amazing sex life. When we have sex we always film it. It's just a bit of a kinky thing we do.

My Mum, who's in her mid-forties, is always saying how good looking my boyfriend is and that she wishes she was "getting some". It's a bit weird but I think that some Mum's are probably attracted to their daughter's boyfriend.

One morning, we woke up and had sex and filmed it. We always put the camera on my bookcase as it's in the perfect spot for filming. When we'd finished I got ready for work and he was going to let himself out afterwards. When I got home later that afternoon I'd realised that I'd left the camera running.

I started to rewind it to earlier on in the day when I suddenly saw my Mum and my boyfriend going at it like rabbits on camera and in my bed! I nearly threw up and the thought of it while I'm typing this is enough to make me vomit. I don't know what to do or say! I'll be getting rid of my boyfriend but how can I possibly confront my Mum about this?!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009):

its strange that he bf is dumper FOREVER but the mother needs another chance- another chance at what, to have sex with her daughters bf? why? just because she is the mother? well, the daughter should run away far far this type of mother. toxic mother.

this mother seems to be the one to find delight in destrying her daughter. the very person whom she was supposed to love unconditionally well, mom just decided to help herself to the bf. later on it will be with her daughters hb. then what, more time to redeem herself and work on trust issues.

well if the mother is getting a second chance, just give the bf one. perhaps in time we good aunts should also advise that a 3some is not really a bad idea. WHAT NONSENSE. THE LAST POSTER AND OTHERS THAT SAY GIVE THE MOTHER ANOTHER CHANCE HAS NOT WITNESSED THEIR MOTHER HAVING SEX WITH ONES OWN BF.

be more leneient just because she is MOM. NO WAY!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009):

Urgh, that's horrible.

Do what satindesire says. As for the anonymous post below mine, DONT do everything she says. Be a strong adult about this. Although, I do agree that you should try to keep future boyfriends at a distance until you feel your mother has earned your trust back. And she needs to know that she has to earn your trust back. Don't just walk out on her, give her a chance to make up for her horrible mistake, hopefully she will want to.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009):

i am glad you will be dumping your b/g, pity you cannot do the same to your mum.

she needs to know what you think of her, she has behaved like a common whore, and please keep the evidence so that she doesn't turn this around and blame you.

know this, your mum will try it again with another b/f, so plse do not introduce any more b/f to her. if you can move out plse do. oh, and tell EVERYONE WHAT SHE DID.you cannot salvage your relationship with your bf but at least you can get even with your mom. don't even spare her feelings. she did not spare yours now, did she.

let her know the pain she has caused and cut her out of your life. if she behaves like a whore she deserves to be treated as one. and she is one.

good luck

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A male reader, Main Man United Kingdom +, writes (1 May 2009):

Main Man agony auntYou are right to dump your boyfriend as he unfaithful with & has had sex with mother. When you do confront your mother ask her how she & your ex-boyfriend have been having sex.Tell her to find a man of her own who is nearer her age & to leave your boyfriends alone in futher.

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A female reader, Seven_Deadlies United Kingdom +, writes (1 May 2009):

Seven_Deadlies agony auntWell you can't let this go. You don't know how long they've been at it. So you definately have to confront her.

Make sure you have the tape as proof for starters and then set her aside and ask her if there's anything she wants to admit to you. If she doesn't confess then push it slighty and mention your boyfriend. If she pretends to not understand then calmly but assertively tell her what you've seen. She can't deny it then as you have proof.

It will be difficult to forgive her but she is your mother. It wont be easy and it will take a lot of time.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2009):

leave him. if he can cheat with ur mum of all ppl, dear knows what else hes doing.

as for your mum, ask her if she has anything to tell you. give her the chance to fess up. If not, tell her what you know, and let her know how much she's hurt you.

I think thats a good starting point.

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