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writes: So today me and my bf had sex, anyway my mom found out because my sister is a snitch and she only looks for ways of getting me into trouble, anyway so my mom was bitching me out about having sex with my bf.She started calling me like a whore and stuff. I told her she is a hypocrite and that just made things worse for me.The reason why I called her a hypocrite is because when she was my age she was doing the same thing. Also she has 12 kids and is expecting another one all by different fathers(2 girls by one dad,3 boys by another,3 more girls by another,2 more girls by another, 1 girl by a different guy, 2 more girls by a different guy, and then the one she will have by her current bf), and she is calling me a whore?Oh i'm 17 by the way, and my bf is 19.I was just wondering what people thought of this situation. Oh and sorry it's long-ish. Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (9 December 2010):
 Although it is a case of the pot calling the kettle black. I'm with the majority vote here. As harsh as it may sound, it's like her saying, "Hey, look at me. I've got 12 kids all by different fathers, you don't want to end up like me." She is your mother, it's her house, her rules. If she doesn't want you having sex in it, I suggest you find another love den. Basically, if you're going to have sex be smart about it. Get yourself on a form of birth control and use condoms. Apparently, your mother never used those. In fact, she needs to get her tubes tied.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010): yes, she did/is doing the same thing and should never have called you a whore, but she is your mother and that is that. you see the poor choices she has made and yet you're going down the same road. Challenge yourself to lead a life better than hers. aka start respecting yourself and caring about where your life is going.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (9 December 2010):
 Amazing. So you have an example of what happens when you have sex so young, point out this example and yet learn nothing from it.
Truly amazing. Oh well, guess this apple won't fall far from the tree.
She isn't a hypocrite, she is trying to prevent you from making the same mistakes.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (9 December 2010):
Simple...Your mother has call you that because, she does not want you making the same mistake she did. Hard choice of words, but learn from her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010): Firstly you are NOT a whore. Secondly, your mother has created a very complicated and somewhat unusual family situation with so many children with different fathers. I ask you to think about her actions and the life you want for yourself in the future - how you want to develop relationships with men and the kind of relationships you want. Set your own path. Your own agenda. You don't need to follow a pattern established by your Mother if you don't want to. Your life can be very different. You're in control of that.
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reader, shnookims  +, writes (9 December 2010):
 yes, she's being hyporitical but maybe she doesn't want you to have her life... maybe she's scared of you turning into her.
Your not the first teenager to label his/her parent a hypocrite and most o the time they really are but they're still your parent and that deserves a level of respect.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (9 December 2010):
 Oh wow... that's... Yikes. But she's probably hoping that you'll do as she SAYS and not as she DOES. Even though she knows she's got a problem, she's hoping that you'll learn from her mistakes and avoid doing the same things she's done. She wants you to live a better live than she has and is afraid that your having sex at 17 is just the beginning.
For that matter, she probably is upset with herself already, and you're just reminding her of herself, hence the anger. Then when you called her a hypocrite, she had to think of herself again, thus more anger that she's kept bottled up spilled out.
She IS your mother... like it or not... so I'd say go up to her, apologize and try to reassure her that you're being careful, using protection, and that you're still planning for the future and for a better life. (She still may be irrationally angry, but you owe it to her to at least try. She IS your mother, after all.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010): Your mom is a total hypocrite.
But still be careful with yourself. If you want to end up with a better life than your mother, then just not doing any worse than what she did at your age is not good enough. You have to be MORE responsible than she was being at your age.
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