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writes:I'm bisexual and married. How do I ask my husband if he would have a problem with me dating a woman I've become quite close to. She doesn't know I'm back living with my husband so how do I approach her?
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (9 December 2010):
 I have a website for you to read. It's for spouses who have found out their partners are gay or lesbian. Kind of sad and poignant to read the stories of hurt and the amazing pain people experience when they find their spouse has been lying and cheating on them.
Does your husband know that you consider yourself bisexual? Have you been honest with him? Is he a fan of "dating" other people while you are in a marriage? I know that would be considered cheating by just about anyone.
Be honest with yourself and with him. He should be able to decide if he wants to live life with a woman who really isn't that into him.
http://www.voy.com/86426/
Take care.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (9 December 2010):
 You're married, being bisexual isn't an excuse to cheat. I'm bisexual as well, and would never pursue a relationship with someone while involved with another. It's still cheating regardless of sexual orientation.
If you do decide to talk to him about it, you need to realize he's likely going to assume he can either watch or join in. After all, a threesome is the ultimate heterosexual male fantasy. If he reacts positively it's only because he sees this as an opportunity to make it a reality, not because he wants you to explore your sexuality for your own benefit. That's why there's such a double standard, if you wanted to have sex with another man he'd be opposed, because (I'm assuming) he's not attracted to men.
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