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anonymous
writes:My mom says that I shouldn't be able to hang out with my guy friend whos 19 and im 14. She says its " stagetory rape" but I looked it up and its only if you do sexual intercourse things. I wanna hang out with him but she says its just " bad news" and he likes me, but she says he just wants sex but I asked him and to tell the truth and he said no he could careless about that. Its not illegal to hang out with someone that age right? were both positive its not. Please dont tell me its wrong to hang out with him cuz I don't see it that way. Many people have some age gaps. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2010): I'm sorry to be so blunt but I am male, and yes he will be intending on having sex with you, eventually. Maybe not now but whenever he can or you allow him to, yes. Males rarely hang out with females (one on one) unless they are considering having intimate ecounters with them. Good luck.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 February 2010):
 Hanging out with him is not statutory rape but your mom is experienced and wise enough to know that sooner or later it may lead to statutory rape.
Maybe, she got it from her own experience or her perceptions of this issue and that's why she formed this opinion .
Whether your mom is right or not , nobody can be sure. She is making you aware of this possibility which you cannot see because you are still young and innocent and do not know the ways of the world.
She is apprehensive and concern and do not want such incidents to happen to you .
You don't go into the tiger's den to stroke his chin and not be eaten.
You need to be aware that boys of that age are sexually very active and they do not think like girls who just want friendships and companionship. Most of them are looking for sex even if they don't show it outwardly.
You do not know what are the forces you are dealing with.It is like you do not know what is a Tsunami until it hits you.
It is not wrong to mix with boys of that age but you need to be careful and not be in the wrong place and time.
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reader, rcn +, writes (24 February 2010):
 Hanging out is not considered statutory rape. Now, lets look at this age gap, and see what is considered in a broad context under the law as statutory rape. "physical contact", such as holding hands, even kissing can be construed under the law as sexual assault or a statutory rape, reason being, at your age the law doesn't see you as being able to consent to either of those, therefore, even if you don't have sex, but do any other physical act, the charge isn't stat, but I have seen cases like that charged with assault, sexual assault or crimes against children. I won't tell you not to hang out with him, but I will say be careful in making your choices. Be grateful you have a mom who is protecting you. Over the years I've had many clients who would trade places with you to have a mom who cares as yours does. One of my more recent cases, a girl your age, being pimped out by mom for drugs. She might drive you nuts every now and again, just remember when she does, it's because she loves you.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2010): normal 19 year olds don't want to hang out with 14 year olds... just not normal. You're mother is right to be concerned as most 19 year old guys want to have sex with girls. She's also right that if he touches you, he's committing a crime. It's not limited to "sexual intercourse things"... it's any sexual contact... any... and the law is simple... any sexual contact with a minor (that's you) and he goes to prison as a sexual predator, where he'll get raped... and it will not be statutory... (note the spelling)...
But to answer your question- hanging out is not illegal, just weird...
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