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*lly350
writes:ok, my mom said it means u like a guy when you give him a birthday present and he's not your boy-friend?? is that true? im 15 he's turning 17 and she wont let me give my guy friend a birthday present. i dont think it is true neither do other people ive asked. i think my mom is just way overly protective! would u agree? Reply to this Question
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (28 February 2010):
 Part of it yes. maybe a little crush for you but its normal. its depend on your gift. and your mother" she is normal too, she is not over protected, she just want you to remain a good person. your mother love you and so you do. take care there..
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2010): It depends what you give and how and what the card/tag says etc etc ... Your mother is probably just looking out for you and it's understandable that she wants you to maintain your dignity etc .. (some girls buy presents for guys to get them to like them etc etc) but these days there aren't such strict old fashioned protocols re male/female friendships etc .. If you give him the present in a friendly way that should be fine. It sounds like you chose a thoughtful, appropriate present and I'm sure he'll appreciate it. If you gave him jewellery, cologne or clothes it might seem a bit more personal but a cookbook related to his course sounds perfect. Also, if you spend a lot of money on a present he could get the wrong idea, so just something practical, relevant and not too expensive is fine. At yr age it's common for groups of girls and guys to hang out casually as friends and maybe buy each other the odd present etc .. Maybe you should put a fun/friendly tag/card on/with it to be clear it's just a 'friend thing'.
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reader, ally350 +, writes (27 February 2010):
ally350 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u guys! so i got him an italian cook book because he is going to go to college for colinairy. he is italian also. but i havent told my mom yet :S dont think i will either. but it was way better than what he got from his foster parents, they got him a suit case:( come on! lol so thx!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2010): depend on what the gift is. Like a guy giving jewellery is a no-no unless its saying something.
You could select something that is friendly rather personal. Then it can't be wrong. A book is always good. Or any stationary. A fun tshirt is not so bad... It really depends on what you give.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2010): I gave my guy friend a gift too and it was because I liked him! There's nothing wrong with giving a gift. It doesn't always have to mean tht you like him just in some cases it does!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (27 February 2010):
 Your mother comes from an older generation . Perhaps during her generations , it was true .
Today , it does not hold true unless you give something very expensive or extra ordinary to your guy friend.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 February 2010):
I think your mother is being a little to over-protective too. A present could send the wrong idea, there is a lot more to love and relationships than that. I think if you want to give the gift, you can.
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