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writes:I am getting married soon. And preparing for the wedding. Nothing has been really stressfull for me yet because it is a small wedding. My mother is upset at me because she says that I am not sharing anything with her and that when a daughter usually gets married she shares stuff with her mother. I say, that she has known everything from the start minus some details that I have discussed with my fiance recently because it was also hard for me to get my fiance involed with the wedding and now he wants to help so i'm letting him. But she is jeleous and is hurt about it. I am practically paying for this wedding and no one else, now my fiance has chipped in. So what do I do about this situation?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (4 December 2009):
 Definitely give her a job. Maybe you can make her "wedding coordinator", and on the day of the wedding, she's the one who makes sure that things are happening correctly. On your wedding day, you'll want to enjoy it and not stress about the bridesmaid who forgot her stockings or where the minister is, or plugging you iPod into the system.
Or, if that seems too much, just give her SOMETHING so that she feels involved and important.
Good luck and congratulations!!
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (4 December 2009):
 Include your mother, it's her big day too, the culmination of her dreams. Give her one section to organise, maybe arranging the bridesmaids giftss, or planning little presents for the guest, ask her to arrange them and pay for them, and then on your wedding day you can thank her for her support, and tell everyone that she helped. If you don't like what she's done, she'll get the blame, if you like what she's done, she'll get the praise.. Your her little girl, she's waited so long for this day, give her some small thing to do, so she'll feel involved too. hahahaha.. get her to ring everyone to see if their comming, or get her to write all the thank you's for the gifts.. a long painfull job, very borring and tiring, give her the jobs that you love to hate.. congratulations and good luck, blessings on you and your family in your life together.. :)
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 December 2009):
If you can, set her off one some project. She wants to be involved, so try to involve her. Weddings can be very stressful, no matter what the size. She does sound like she's being a little childish about it, but if you can find something for her to do, it will be easier.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (4 December 2009):
Ask her what more she wants?
It's probably a case that it's more then emotional side that she wants to be in on than the practical.
So you can let her do the seating plan and pick the table decorations but if you only get EXCITED and bouncy with other people, then she's going to feel left out.
Go round, take magazines, make a pot of tea and open up a pack of biscuits. Have a bit of a session of slagging off all the models and picking out the bits you like.
Good Luck!! xx
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