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writes:Hi,I have been in a long distance relation ship for the past 5 years and my boyfriend has finally proposed....but without a ring..he didn't want to choose it for me as i have quite particular taste so he has given me £2000 to spend on a ring i choose.1st problem....my mum thinks this is too much money to spend on a ring. Also we were in town the other day and we had a look as some rings and the ones i liked she didn't...now i know she was only trying to help but surely its MY choice??? She chose her ring and i don't know how to tell her to stop interfering.2nd problem..the ring i have fallen in love with is £2250 platinum....im happy to add the £250 myself but i know my fiance would get angry if i put any money towards it but i don't want to ask him for anymore money as i agree £2000 is a lot. Shall i just lie and say it cost £2000?? He will never need to know...Im not a materialistic person but a nice engagement ring is the only thing i want to splash out on. Im not even bothered about the actual wedding ring. I need some advice on the above!!!Thanksxx
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (6 April 2009):
 Its your choice, not your mums! When she says 'I don't like it' you say 'its a good thing you don't have to wear it then!' She'll get the msg. Add the 250 and tell him that it was 2000, he'll never know!x
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (6 April 2009):
 You are right, it is your engagement so your mother can offer suggestions but the decision is yours.
As for the extra £250, why don't you add from your own pocket. If he loves you, I am sure he would not mind you doing that. In fact, you can humour him by saying "Now you are stuck with me, because this ring is OURS - it is as much mine as it is yours" or words to that effect. He sounds like a pragmatic person anyways, if giving you the money for the ring is just many of the things he does to make your life more enjoyable (and less headache for him LOL)
Congratulations on your engagement!
Cat
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2009): female reader underneath, so very true! wise words spoken well. Take her advice poster... goodluck!
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2009): I think your fiance sounds very generous for giving you £2000 to spend on a ring! Sorry to sound harsh, but surely its the wedding ring itself that is more important? Also, if you start fibbing about how much it costs, are you not starting your married life on a lie? IF he found out, would he wonder what else you could lie to him about? I know engagement rings are exciting, and every girl loves something sparkly to show off to her friends, but what is more important to you in this situation - the bling or the man?
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