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writes: I think that being born as a child to my mother was painful for her and that i am guilty for the pain she had to bear. Atleast that is something she has been trying to justify to me. Any advice on how do i deal with her when she blames me unnecessarily? Reply to this Question
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reader, Pork Hock  +, writes (26 April 2007):
Has she actually said that having you was the most horrible experience of her life and that you are to blame for the pain, carrying you for 9 months etc? I can't answer this until I know for sure, or whether it is your interpretation or maybe she has said how much she went through when she was having you during an argument? She may have had terrible post-natal depression which was never treated. You are between 26-29 so why is this an issue and the issue between you and her?
Give me more detail. Cheers,
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2007): I say tell Mom you are tired of her abuse and you are sad that her mom/dad treated her poorly and said the same things to her.
Tell her you love her as she is Mom and no one could take her place.
Tell her that you will no longer take the abuse be it put downs, critisms, anger, hurtful words and that she DID have a choice to give birth to you and raise you.
I say counselling. IF she says no keep visits short and everytime she says something hurtful tell her, I am not staying for this later Mom.
Kiss her goodbye and say see you next visit.
I am thinking she will clue in eventually.
Best Wishes.
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