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writes:hi i'm 18 and life has never been better for me up until a week ago. i was staying with my mom because she hasn't seen me in a while and wednesday she had to work so i was at her house with her husband. it was his day off and with him being an alcoholic all he does on his day off his drink. i was just sitting there reading my book when he said he needed help with something. well i went in there to see what he needed help with and he pinned me against a wall. he kissed me and started to feel me up, luckily the cat knocked of a glass and distracted him. i kneed him in the groan and booked it out of there. with thanksgiving coming up my mom wants me to spend some time there and she wants to know why i left in a hurry last week. so my question is should i report it, tell my mom the real reason, or just act like it never happened and lie to her? i am afraid of telling her though i've never seen her this happy and i don't want to ruin what she has, and at the same time i'm afraid she won't belive me. i just don't know what to do. please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): You need to tell her and there will be a a small chance that she will not believe you or that he will tell you that he was on joking around. But, the bug will always be in her mind and he will catch her someday.
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reader, Good advice!  +, writes (25 November 2008):
you dont need to suffer in silence! the best thing to do is to get it in the open. do you feel safe around him any more? it may even be afecting the relationship with you mum!
I hope your problem sorts itself out :) *hugs*
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reader, mygrlz02 +, writes (25 November 2008):
I'm so sorry for what happened to you. I would want my daughter to tell me if something like this ever happened to her rather than think that she didn't want to visit me or have her visit me with the fear of this happening to her again. I'm sure that once your mom gets over the initial shock of the situation she will be understanding and if she's not well at the very least you won't ever have to see that creep again. Please tell someone. I hope everything works out.
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reader, Teacake +, writes (25 November 2008):
 Where is your father? It might be better to let him take care of that. You are right,some mothers rather stay in denial about that. Can you ask her if she knows how much he drinks? She will be furious at him when she finds out and there will be major drama. Best you speak to another family member first so they can talk to your mom and take the pressure off of you. But DO TELL SOMEONE!!!!!!!! A friend's mom or dad or teacher, or your dad, or any adult you trust. It will come as a horrible shock to your mother and that is to be expected. Unless she is a calm individual, someone else needs to tell her FAST. You have every right to never be near that man again, and find somewhere else to go for thanks giving!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): hey i can relate im only 14 and mt step dad who im with everyday sexualy abusid me sorry i dont spell good AT ALL, but my step dad first started when i was just me and him when my mom was at work and i had just turedd 13. well he called me into his and my moms room and he said for me to sit next to him and he was showing me this pics that he had on his phone and they were naked pics of me i jumped up and wanted to run away but he grabed me by the hair and he pushed me on ground he riped my shirt off and took of my shorts he got on top of me and he raped me i was crying and kicking but he slaped me bit me and when that didnt work he went in deeper so i finaly stoped he finished and he told me that if i told my mom he would kill me i was sooo scaired to tell my mom or tell anyone. after a year of hm doing it over and over he got worse and worse finaly i got the guts to tell my teacher who i no i can trust. i told her she hugged me and told me that i did the right thing and she called the cops and helped tell my mom i am in counseling now and i hate wat happend to me. wat i am trying to tell you is that the longer u wait the worse it will get.
the first time it happend i thought that it was going to be a one time thing but it wasnt so u need to tell someone i no i made the mistake of not and now im scared 4 life.
i want to make shure u no wat im saying bout telling u that the longer u wait the wors it will get ok i want to wish u luck by.
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reader, vamp-gal +, writes (24 November 2008):
 Hey,I'm sorry but you really have to tell your mum about this, think about it, what would have happened if the cat hadn't distracted him? You probably could have done something, but what if...?This probably isn't what you wanted to hear, especially since you said it's the happiest your mum has been, but unfortunately, he harassed you, and being under the influence of alcohol is no excuse.Please tell your mum or the authorities, what if it happens again? but this time you can't stop it, or someone else is his victim, sorry if this is making you upset, but it needs to be let out in the open.I really hope this helps, and good luck with whatever you decide to do.
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