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writes:I am 13, and am obviously unsure of my sexuality and who i like etc etc. but i do have a girlfriend. She has had girlfriends before and is more serious than i am, and everything has been fine until recently when my mum found out. My mum is not against gay relationships, but does know a man who was abused his whole life because of his sexuality and wants to protect me from this lifestyle. She says that it would be easier to end the relationship with my girlfriend and just remain friends but obviously it is not that easy. My girlfriend is having a hard time with family and such at the the moment, and i suppose she is quite co-dependent. I don't want to hurt her but it seems i have no choice. I am also scared that i will be left alone as her and i are both within the same friend group, but many of my friends have promised that it does not bother them if i am with her or not they will not end our friendship. I don't want to lead her on for so long, but i don't want to make any actions that i will regret later. I feel stuck in the situation, and my mum's being so awful about it and that really doesn't make me feel any better. Helpppp. ): Reply to this Question
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reader, jkoh  +, writes (1 December 2008):
 I'm also gay. If you really love this person isn't a little persecution worth it. It sounds like your mother loves you and only wants the best for you, but she doesn't understand what it is like to be gay. also, if you have someone to love, then why does other peoples spiteful comments about you matter? if you don't want to stay with your girlfriend, than stay with her until her family crises is over before breaking up with her. when people feel like no one loves them they tend to be a little rash. But like Kahli-Mah said, don't live the rest of your life in regret.
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reader, Kali-Mah +, writes (1 December 2008):
In any relationship, no matter what, you should consider the other person first and formost. Think if you really like/love your girlfriend and if you are with her out of love or pity, or just to make her feel better. Being in the same friend group should not make it to bad, in my opinion. Listen to the caution of your mom and her friend, but listen to what you want, too. You are still very young and have many decisions left ahead of you. Don't have regrets in your life, but if you do, learn from them.
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