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writes:I hid condoms, birth control and papers from the clinic in my bedroom. So today I was going to throw out the condoms and papers so I put it in my bag. Without me knowing my mom went into my bag and found it. She flipped on me and she told my dad. I made a B.S. story about how today I'm going to meet up with my friend and give it to her because she wanted me to hide it for her because shes going to get in trouble with her own parents. They didn't buy any of this, they think it's mine. My parents are very religious and strict so they are telling me that I lost all their trust, i'm not allowed to go outside anymore, they took my cell phone away, my parents told me they want nothing to do with me anymore. They let me go out to give my friend the stuff. lol I threw all those things out in the garbage outside. When I come home my mom went through all my stuff in the bedroom and she found the Birth control pills (the one thing I left at home and I hid this sooo well I honestly think she would never find it). NOW they know my story is BS and they know all this stuff is mine. I keep denying it but my mom is like why did you leave the birth control pills in your room then if you were going to give your friend all this stuff today? I told her I forgot it was there. But come on they will never believe me. Now my parents are threatening they are going to kick me out and stop paying for my education. They have been yelling at me the whole entire day and now they are ignoring me. My mom told me she wants nothing to do with me anymore and I lost all her trust. I don't know what I'm going to do now. My parents are very unreasonable and no matter what I say they wont listen to me. Someone please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2007): You're over 18 now and responsible for your actions. It's good that you have stocked up on protection which shows that you are prepared and ready for the time. And of course being safe during it.
You should sit down with your parents at some time and tell them straight on that you are prepared and protected and also ready for whenever it should happen.
Good luck
Pete =]
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reader, NenaUnique  +, writes (16 January 2007):
 thats nasty and that sucks for you...you're parents trust is the trust that youll never find in anyone else in this world..
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2007): i reckon, u should stay out of their way abit...like stay in your room...let them kool off...they wont stop ur education, they are jus threatning you, and u kno what..they wont even kick u out..thats a threat too..think about it...they care so much about u sleepin around...they wudnt want to face the shameee and humility of kickin u out bcuz u had condoms on u...bu seriously..i kno its ur life..bu fink abt how they must feel too...they probs finkin the worst for example 'oh no our lil girl has beeen havin sex'....live by their rules for a while...i gurantee u..by a month they will have calmed down...n say that birth control was for ur period pain...and when u went to get it ...the nurse gave u condoms..czzz u was ova 16...and then say u was scared to tell ur mum..and say u went to chuk it out..n dat day she went in ur bag...seriously...make sumit up k...god bless u n urz...friend x x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2007): Your parents need to realize that you are a woman! You are having sex and you're over 18...none of thier business. Ask them why the trust has been lost and why they won't pay for the schooling. Also remember that you CAN move out and get an apartment for pretty cheap if you have a job...It's your life! Live it!
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reader, x.Helpful.Cupid.x  +, writes (16 January 2007):
 Hiya.
I really know how you feel, my parents are very protective, so i know what your going through, but i think you should try to talk to them, even if this is hard, i understand that you were trying to help your friend, and that was very kind so i respect your actions. Maybe try and stay with a friend for a while to give them a bit of space, then maybe send them a card explaining what happened, even if you do not recieve a reply, it may help. As far as your education is concerned..it is important that you still study, and perhaps ask for a few days of to try and sort things out, im sure school/college will understand. If they kick you out, maybe a friend or a relative will be able to help. Good luck xx
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reader, cd206 +, writes (16 January 2007):
 It sounds like an overreaction considering you're over 18 and since you'd imagine most parents would be pleased you were being careful. After all you could be out there having unprotected sex with every third person in the street and they wouldn't know anything about it. That said I wouldn't lead with either of the above arguments.
Really you only have one option, to apologise profusely for having the stuff and lying to them. Tell them about your guy and how much you're in love with each other and even though you wanted to wait it's proving difficult and although you have no immediate plans to have sex you wanted to be prepared. Hopefully they'll admire your maturity and your honesty.
CD
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2007): Firstly, well done you for taking the correct steps in guarding yourself against, unwanted pregnancy and STD's.
Secondly, your parents will calm down from the shock and hopefully realise this for themselves knowing that if you weren't so careful that it could be a whole different story and the you could have told them that you are pregnant or sick from unprotected sex. They are probably upset that you continued to lie to them more than the fact you were using protection.
Try and sit down with them at an appropriate moment, asking them to listen to you without arguement. Apologise that you lied to protect yourself originally and that you wer escared of the consequences of them finding out that you are sexually active. Explain to them that you have been responsible about it and hopefully in time they will understand.
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2007): It's your life and your parents should be ashamed. You did not say your age! If your under 16 or possibly 18 then i tink your parents have a point but if not you do what you want.
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