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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My family wont respected me and my boyfriend because my boyfriend is black. We been together for awhile and my mom finally met him and she still doesn't like that im with him. Im not black and i didn't exspect to be with a black guy. But i love this guy and i want my mom to like him and know how much he means to me. What can i do to tell mom how much i love my boyfriend and make her like him? How can i tell her that his color shouldn't be a problem? Reply to this Question
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reader, ctds001  +, writes (17 June 2010):
To be honest most parents have reservations when meeting their daughter boyfriends.
Actions speak louder then words, make sure he is doing everything right by you and you for him. In time your Mum will see him for how happy he makes you.
However DO NOT become stubborn to make things work if the relationship takes a turn for the worst just to prove your Mum wrong.
True love triumphs over everything, my black Uncle has been married to he's wife (who is white) for 21 years and they have been together for 32 years, he's in-laws could not cope with the fact that he was black, but time and he's love for he's wife changed their minds.
Good luck x
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): sit down with your mom and ask her to tell you exactly why she doesnt like him and if she has no good reason other then his skin tell her that you like him for him and she needs to be supportive of you! if she doesn't listen, tell her straight forward that shes being racist! (try not to yell or anything, that only makes things worse)
good luck 3
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): What else is there about your boyfriend that you like besides him being black?
Is he attending school?
Is he a good student earning good grades?
Does he have plans to further his education?
Does he have interests outside of just hanging out?
Is he involved in sports or volunteerism?
Does he attend a church?
Is he a gangbanger?
Does he sell drugs?
Does he have a bad temper?
Does he use that temper on you?
What does he do for you?
Who are his friends, would you be proud to be associated with them?
What is his family like?
Has he ever been in trouble with the law?
Who is this black man? Does your Mom have any other concerns than his skin color? Are they valid? Tell her about him as a person, please enlighten us what you love about him.
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