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writes:Happy Halloween everyone. Well i have a new problem,I know the answer that everyone is gonna say but i just want some reassurance on what i need to do. I have talked to my friends and coworkers and they have said what i think i should do. This married man that i ask to take a break from seeing cause i was getting attached to him will not respond to anything i do.I have texted him and called him but he will not respond to the text or answer the phone.. He said we where still friends and when i told him i wanted to see him till he left the state he wont talk to me.I ask him what the problem was and that i wanted to make things right between us before he left.I also ask him to see him one more time before he left for old time sake.Nothing.So i called him and he shady buttoned me,I got mad and sent him a text that said he had no balls to tell me what happened and that i thought he was a better person then this,also said that i guess i wasnt worth an explanation.Well no response to that either..I havent texted or called and nether has he.does this mean that it is totally over or just wait and he will call.Dont you think that if he thought as me as a friend he could tell me what was wrong and why it just ended like this.We where very good friends.What do i do? leave it alone or go to his apt and make him face me and tell me.
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reader, Lil222  +, writes (18 December 2010):
I was in the same situation as you. There are two reasons he may not be contacting you
1. he feels badly because you want more and all he wants is sex.
2. he's afraid he'll be caught cheating and he'll lose his family.
Either way you have to stop all contact with him for your own sanity.
Become fit, get a new hair-do, take some interesting classes, search your soul, in effect grow out of the person who is willing to take some other woman's sloppy seconds. Because that's all a married man who sleeps around is-- "a sloppy second". Be your own saviour, become own "best" man. Then see how your life improves. "Living well is the best revenge" He'll get his "just desserts" Karma is like that. Move on.
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reader, MD 'Dorsal' FINN  +, writes (31 October 2010):
lady you must be smoking opium! The reason I do not walk across a busy highway blindfolded is because the "ODDS of me succeeding" are very slim. The odds of you succeeding with a married man are also very slim. This guy has had his fun and now see's that you could be dangerous to his marriage. He is protecting his ass.
Have a good look in the mirror and SEE that you deserve/demand better. See that you are so much better than this guy and determine that you will respect and cherish YOURSELF. Do not call this guy again. Get happy within yourself
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (31 October 2010):
 well if he hasnt answered your texts or calls by now then isnt it abit obvious that he no longer wants a relationship with you.no one likes to be ignored but sometimes thats the only way to make people realise when your uninterested.i say take the hint dont make yourself look anymore desperate and try and move on
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (31 October 2010):
I'm afraid when you got mad and said "you've got no balls", you kind of ended whatever it was you had. You said you wanted a break, and he gave you that. A break. You can't then text him and expect a response, and you can't then text him "you've got no balls" when you were the one who wanted the break. That was not the right thing to do, and has caused him to shut the door.
I think you should just leave it. His wife will not appreciate a woman on her doorstep demanding explanations. It could look really bad for you, far more than him.
You made a decision to pull away from him. He allowed you to do so. You then insulted him. You can't realistically expect him to suddenly be there as a friend after that. Leave him well alone and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): you have served your purpose to him. Some men really only need a wet strength paper bag receptacle for their semen. But instead they involve an available naive women to receive his blessings instead. Creating a relationship with no future and no value. He has now revealed how little you meant to him. Accept it. Move on. Learn from this. Never repeat the same mistake again. He used you. He is now sick of you. To him you are now merely an irritation to be swatted away like a troublesome buzzing irritating fly. That's the problem with being with married men. Their morals and ethics are in the gutter. They lie to their wives. They lie to you. The wife believes his lies. The extra lady thinks he cares. In truth he never did care, otherwise he would behave better.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (31 October 2010):
 I think that depends on how badly you need an explanation. If he is married, he might just feel guilty because he is talking to you while his wife is at home and so he is staying out of contact. I have no idea. If you need an explanation, then I would go to his apartment and make him tell me what the problem is. If you don't need an explanation, then delete his number and never think of him again.
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