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writes:help! Im still in love with my married man. How can i comlpetely forget him? We have not contacted for 2 months now.i dont know the reason why. He just let me go without saying a word. Im trying to move on. I have been dating with other guys and getting busy with other stuff. But still the memories that i shared with my married man is still lingering. The feelings are so strong. I keep looking at his pictures and always feel the way he hugged me and caressed me. I keep on remembering the sweet words he told me.I just want to move on. I know there is no future between us..
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reader, Kilcardy +, writes (23 January 2011):
You got used. That's why he simply dropped off the face of the earth. He has a wife at home. This invariably is what happens when you date married men. It's almost like a self-inflicted wound. I just don't get why women do this to themselves. Now you have to live with the hurt and his wife has to live with a lying cheating scumbag without even knowing it. And Mr. Lying Cheating Scumbag skips away unscathed. Wow, what a great deal!.
It will take time for your wounds to heal. All the crap he told you was a lie (otherwise, he'd be with you). So, forget his sweet words dripping with dishonesty. I hope you don't do this to yourself again. It's just not worth it. Take this opportunity to find out why you were drawn to an unavailable man. This entire drama is more about you than it is about your lying cheating paramour. Don't just "move on" and start dating again without finding out what makes you tick. To do otherwise would be a waste of your experience with this episode. Dig deep and find out why you did this. Use it to better your screening process and make a more healthy and happy life for yourself. Good luck.
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reader, chocoholicforever +, writes (23 January 2011):
Healing from a break up is always tough. But feelings will fade with time PROVIDED that it's truly over and nothing 'new' happens like you don't get back in contact with him. Because if you do, even once, then that resets the clock for getting over him.
get rid of anything that reminds you of him. Get rid of pictures, gifts he has given you, etc. just cut him out of your life completely.
Remind yourself of his character flaws - namely, that he is capable of lying and betrayal. Put yourself in his wife's shoes. Imagine you're the wife and you found out he's been having an affair. That should be pretty off-putting when you really look at it....
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reader, Blonde68  +, writes (23 January 2011):
 I am sorry that you are feeling this way, it isn't nice when your heart as been broken, even more so when you don't know what went so wrong. I know exactly what you are feeling... they are the first thing you think about when you wake, and the last thing you think about when you fall asleep. What makes it worse is that you need closure, a reason behind it all, but you are not going to get it now.Unfortunately the only way you are going to get over this guy is through time. Time is a great healer, and there will come a day when you think, wow, I didn't think about him yesterday... and as time goes on, you will think less and less because your heart has slowly healed.But more importantly, do you really want a man in your life who treats you in this manner... he will know that you are hurting but has just walked away. Do you also want to be with a man who can be unfaithful. From my experiences we go through 3 stages; the first is the grieving stage, which is what you are going through right now, crying and longing for them and he is constantly on your mind. Then we go through the angry and bitter stage, and this is when you will start getting stronger because your head is becoming a little clearer... you will realise what a toe rag he was for allowing you to suffer like this. Then the third stage is when you are over it and ready to move on and date someone else... you may have the occasional thought for him, but he won't be pulling at your heart.Like I said, time is the only healer.Take care hun, it will get better....honest! x
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