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writes:i've been married 10 years. were generally unhappy. what my therapist calls a toxic relationship. i stayed for the kids. had no feelings for my husband nor him for me. i had a friend (S) who's also married (no kids) our friendship sort of developed into mutual attraction then deep love. he was my match as i was his. we were lovers for 2 years. best 2 years of my life. i was ready to leave my husband for him but he wasn't ready then a year later when he became ready i was no longer ready. a month ago i broke it off with him. now he's back with his wife (they were separated) and i'm devastated. why did i break up? did i do the right thing? will i ever love another as i loved him? should i try to fix my marriage or just move on? i'm confused. please advise. thanks
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reader, ljhenhmla  +, writes (22 November 2010):
you really have to ask yourself what are the thing that are making your marriage toxic? the same way you talked to him did you try talking to your husband? this is what most couples fail to do rather than sitting down and talking to there spouse they would tell someone one else. do you thing you were truly in love with this other guy or it was just lust? and he provided all the things that your husband did not want to do. most important was for him to listen to you. it might if you still love your husband it might be best to try and sit down with him and see why your relationship is toxic.
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