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writes:The guy that I am seeing has been asking me for anal lately and I have never ever done it. I heard it really hurts, but it is ok if you use lots of lube. I am kind of interested in trying it as he is always poking around back there with his cock and sometimes it feels nice. Is there any women out there that likes it? How did they go about it to make it not hurt? Reply to this Question
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reader, egghead +, writes (1 November 2008):
hi, i think if u feel ready then do it. experimenting is a key part in relationships it helps keep things going if you know what i mean. it would be wise to talk to some professional help to see if its safe but i know it can be embarrassing but if your not comfortable then talk to someone who has do it and see how they feel about and any advice they could give you. yes it does hurt for the first time but after its not so bad.
At the end of the day u don't have to do anything you don't what to do.
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reader, Mark25 +, writes (1 November 2008):
 There is nothing wrong with experimenting and anal sex is very common. If you want to try this then fine but don't let him pressure you or make you feel guilty for not wanting to do it. If you do decide to try it then take things very slowly. I cannot emphasise that enough. Use lots and lots of lubricant. The anus is not meant to be for sex so there's lots of nasty bugs up there that he could get an infection from but don't let that put you off. Make sure he wears a condom and you should be fine. Never use vaseline as this rots rubber and the condom will break. Always use a water based lubricant. You can buy them anywhere. There are some specially for anal sex. Also it might be worth going to the toilet before you do anything because, I'm sorry to be graphic, there might be something up there. Clean the whole area with soapy water and you're ready to go. Communication, time and patience is the key. Have fun.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (1 November 2008):
Im pretty sure it will still hurt. The lube may make it more bearable, but it would probably still hurt.
Before you even think about having anal search, you should talk to a trusted professional such as a doctor about the risks of doing it. There is so much damage that can be done. You need to talk to someone about how to prevent the damages as much as possible, what to do in case of damage and so on.
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reader, BigSis +, writes (1 November 2008):
 Whatever happened to experimenting with loads of different sexual positions? That can be so much more fun.....
....but to stick it where the sun don't shine....? Why anyone would want to excavate through the back door is beyond me.
Women were born with vagina's, and they are there for sexual intercourse and giving birth, the anus on the other hand - is for dumping their dinner, not for feeding it.
I sincerely wish you good luck and hope you enjoy it.
BigSis
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reader, Miss Potter +, writes (1 November 2008):
 For me baby oil works better than all those special lubricants as it takes longer to wear off.
For the first time its best to try it on the side, both of you lying down and tell him not to move, you will have to do everything yourself - guide him at your own speed. if it hurts, wait until the pain is gone then move forward, just do it slowly.
it will be painfull the first few times and then it will be ok. some days its pleasant some days i dont enjoy it, its all down to how you feel, but i do like it.
hope this helps.
ah, also, if you have a dildo, try to do it when you are on your own so you can get used to the feeling in your own time
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