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writes:If your man says that he doesn't want to bring up your children (and there not his) does that mean he doesn't love you enough?...Or would most men run a mile? Reply to this Question
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reader, Toria +, writes (19 September 2006):
 Anyone finds it hard to come into a relationship where there are already kids involved, even harder if its full-time and not just at weekends, but surely he knew when he met you that you come with kids and therefore should except that is the person you are, the same person he fell in love with, you need to sit down with him and find out what it is he is worried about, I know I had a friend who was scared of getting involved with anyone with kids due to the fact when his last relationship broke up after five years of being a step-dad that he then lost any relationship he had with them kids and it broke his heart, as a step-dad as he had no rights to seeing them when the relationship was over.
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reader, gracie lou +, writes (19 September 2006):
 yeah, it would be hard to raise kids that are not your own, but your kids are who you are. you come with your kids, no matter what. they'll be with you until theyre old enough to move out. so for a man to come into your life and tell you he doesnt want to help raise your children, well too bad for him. its either you and the kids or nothing at all. so, i don't quite think its a question on whether or not he loves you, its just a question of values and what he's willing to sacrifice for a relationship. he seems to be the kind of guy who really wants to have his own children (or maybe no kids at all), where as there are others out there who would be willing to sacrifice that for your relationship. if he doesnt accept the fact that you come with children, then it would be impossible to carry on a serious relationship with him. i think you two need to sit down and talk about what you are willing to sacrifice for a relationship
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